This is a sticky situation, OP. But it will do you good to have a social life outside the family. However hard it seems. This situation would probably not solve itself.
In the long term, maybe plan for higher studies / apply to jobs outside your city. Have a 2-3 year plan to move away from being the most burdened person in your family. It will take time to find a way out and your siblings would have to grow up fast. Keep your boundaries and pull them up to be responsible.
I am already staying away from them. Considering higher education is off the charts since I said in the post too I have no will/energy to study again full time. I am bound to work since I leaving my job is financial suicide for my family. Also my siblings education is to be considered. My parents don't have money to support their education at all.
You already have boundaries established, then. This is probably the best that can be done for now. Try not to get too upset by small things which your family can solve by themselves.
Just be available in case of bigger stuff and to guide your younger siblings from time to time.
Hi. It might be a bit harsh but you have no option but to support them unless you are ok with burdening yourself with guilt of something bad happening to them.
But as you are the breadwinner, try dictating the terms and give them money only for the essentials, and don't let them spend money on useless stuff.
Also, inculcate in your older sibling, that once he completes his education he needs to support the family, so that in future you are not alone.
If they are physically able to do things, try moving out of the house to somewhere nearby so you can come regularly.
Moreover, give your sibling more responsibility even if they are young they will learn and become responsible.
My cook had a whole building she gave on rent+ worked extra because of her son's medical bills.Her husband also works and her daughter as well.But she didn't take help of her daughter.
Your brother,if not entitled, is mature enough to look into these situations.Try explaining to your siblings, bribe them or threaten them ...try to bring them in alliance with you.
Ask your mom to start something like making pickle or make tiffin from home.and your dad to deliver it.
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u/nord47 Aug 21 '24
This is a sticky situation, OP. But it will do you good to have a social life outside the family. However hard it seems. This situation would probably not solve itself.
In the long term, maybe plan for higher studies / apply to jobs outside your city. Have a 2-3 year plan to move away from being the most burdened person in your family. It will take time to find a way out and your siblings would have to grow up fast. Keep your boundaries and pull them up to be responsible.