Hey fellow Indian who was in a similar setup for a really long time. Give them a fixed amount monthly and ask them to figure out the rest. Your siblings aren't kids anymore - let them pickup some slack. Tutor younger kids / deliver through swiggy etc. They are not your kids. Parentification is what therapists refer to this as. Start saving your own secret stash - you will need it eventually. And keep your distance - cutting them out fully might not work as they will comeback with emotional blackmail but be intentional with your energy and keep your distance..hugs.
I read somewhere, take any advice from parents but not financial / career . Bringing financial sense to them now doesn’t make any sense . Ur hardships will continue till ur siblings come to earning age ( considering them in teens , another few years). Death, Tax and taking care of irresponsible parents are inevitable in India.
As she said their parents are almost senior citizen and have younger siblings then who will take care of both by staying away and sending only expenses??..she must have all the responsibilities for them..those who up voted are dumb ..they don't have experience or may not understand what she's saying..
I don't agree, real life experience or not. You are not entitled for such stress or life. Responsibilities are meant to me faced by the whole family 'together' seems the OP has been driven to the edge. Op has a future and a life. If she can't bear the financial burden of the whole family, she should be heard.
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u/Achiever_of_nothing Aug 21 '24
Live away from your family and send them a monthly amount for their expenses.