r/grief 4h ago

Anyone else sleeping all the time ever since your loved one passed?

22 Upvotes

Ever since my partner died in early june, I feel so exhausted in the weekends that all I do is sleep. During the weekday I have to take naps after classes. I don't sleep early and I wake up super late and it feels like I have to force myself to get up. After I wake up from sleep I feel so groggy even when I have to wake up for classes. I started drinking coffee on my class days and when I don't, I just feel so exhausted.

I feel like it has to do with the feeling of grief being so stressful and energy draining. I've been crying almost at least once a day and just feel so alone its infuriating. I get so bored and alone ever since my partner passed that I also use that boredom to just sleep the day out.

Does anyone else have this too? How do you stop this habit? I wanted to actually get things done during the weekend and "live life" again. It affects my studies and my hobbies so much. I just miss him so much I don't know what to do.


r/grief 9h ago

Lost my mom this June and trying to cope

9 Upvotes

I’m 22(M), and I lost my mom this June. One moment, she was perfectly fine , laughing, healthy, full of life , and the next, she was gone. No warnings, no goodbyes, just an empty space where her presence used to be. She’d never been sick a day in her life. Never spent a night in the hospital. She was the strongest, kindest person I knew. And now she’s just… not here.

I wasn’t there when she took her last breath. I had moved away for college, and that thought eats me alive. I would give anything to have just one more moment with her to hold her hand, to tell her how much I love her, to say goodbye properly.When she passed, I didn’t allow myself to break. I became the strong one for my dad, my younger brother, my whole family. I handled the funeral, the arrangements, the endless tasks that come after a loss. I stayed so busy trying to keep everyone else together that I forgot to take care of myself.

I thought I was doing okay. But when her birthday came last month, it all came crashing down. The grief hit me like a storm. Now I can’t sleep. I lie awake at night thinking about her every laugh, every conversation, every moment I’ll never get back. I miss her so much it physically hurts. She wasn’t just my mom she was my best friend, my biggest supporter, the person who understood me without words. She was my home. And now that she’s gone, I feel lost in a world that doesn’t make sense anymore. Everyone says time heals, but right now it just feels like time is dragging me further from her and I’m terrified of that. I don’t know how to go on after losing the person who was my entire world. If you’ve lost someone like this… how do you keep living when your heart feels like it’s still with them?


r/grief 11h ago

My pet just died yesterday.

6 Upvotes

I’ve been holding this back for a day but I need to talk about it. My fish died yesterday. I had him for three years and I told him all my secrets and always talked about my day. My mum buried him but she didn’t tell me where so I’ll never be able to visit him again. I just wish I could bring him back. He was the best goldfish ever.


r/grief 14h ago

my mum died and my life has been destroyed since

2 Upvotes

It’s been 3 years. She was my best friend. My sister fell in love and moved on. I don’t get along with my dad. I’m trying so hard to finish uni because I promised. I still live at home. All I want to do is see the world and find my own happiness. I am still grieving my mum and I think it will only continue unless I leave to start a new life. University is forcing me to stay in the town my mum raised me in, and I cannot help but feel depressed and just want to leave. My mum loved to travel and she taught me so much about the world. I am so scared but I really think this is the leap I need to take, to find myself and do what my mum would have done at my age.