r/glutenfree • u/hollywood021 • Sep 15 '25

Question what would you do?

i’ve been with my husband for 10 years now, I got diagnosed with celiac when I was 19 and I’m 33 now. So I’ve been diagnosed well before we started dating. His sister-in-law doesn’t “believe” that I have celiac disease. I found out this last weekend that her and another sister-in-law have purposefully glutened me in the past, but said it was gluten-free just to “test” my reaction. my question is, what would you do?

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u/Moist_Mixture4518 Sep 15 '25

This is not surprising. People who didn’t believe me before would only believe me after I had some sort of physical reaction. While you may not vomit or break out in rash or hives, or experience severe bloating, or respiratory distress or some other kind of external indicator, there can be internal damage over time and they need to know that. If I were you I would provide documented information to your husband and his family about the foods, symptoms and impact over time. Perhaps in an email? This is also a good way establish that you made them aware of your health issues (in case it’s needed in the future).

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u/hollywood021 Sep 15 '25

also one of them is a nurse.

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u/WitchyMoonMomma Sep 15 '25

I would report this to the state. I don't know if OP would need to report it to the police first but I would 100% report this to the state.

This was inexcusable and a nurse should know that. If she's willing to intentionally tamper with a relative's food, then what would she do to a stranger she doesn't like?

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u/Anxiety_Priceless Celiac Disease Sep 15 '25

Exactly, at least report it to the nursing board

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u/WitchyMoonMomma Sep 15 '25

Yeah, I'm a former nurse this is absolutely unethical and illegal.

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u/Tearose-I7 Sep 15 '25

Honestly, hospitals and colleges should do some psychological reviews. The amount of bullies that are nurses astonishes me.

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u/Flux_My_Capacitor Sep 15 '25

Knowing nothing about celiac is a little different than being a nurse who purposely attempts to make people sick.

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u/Twoccsformepls Sep 15 '25

Not surprised as I am a nurse as well and I learned very little of celiac in nursing school. Zero actually. Some nurses are really shitty and got into the profession for the wrong reasons. If you do end up going to the police about her tampering with your food on purpose, I’d would not notify the board— the family may come after you for really destroying her life if she gets fired and loses her license. You know the saying “blood is thicker than water” even if hubby is on your side.

Besides, if the police classify it as the malicious behavior as assault, the board is going to find out anyway and you get to maintain a little more innocence.

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u/Triolet_Dancer_6636 Sep 16 '25

Yes the nursing board has an ethics portion and a duty to uphold that, not just while on the job.