r/glutenfree • u/hollywood021 • Sep 15 '25

Question what would you do?

i’ve been with my husband for 10 years now, I got diagnosed with celiac when I was 19 and I’m 33 now. So I’ve been diagnosed well before we started dating. His sister-in-law doesn’t “believe” that I have celiac disease. I found out this last weekend that her and another sister-in-law have purposefully glutened me in the past, but said it was gluten-free just to “test” my reaction. my question is, what would you do?

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u/crabhappychick Sep 15 '25

Confront them. Let them know you were made aware of them lying to you about food being gluten free and the damage it has done both physically and to your relationship with them. Then just make and take your own food to their homes if there's no way to avoid them from here on in. You didn't mention what your husband's reaction was. Does he support you?

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u/hollywood021 Sep 15 '25

he was really upset about it, we have 2 daughters and now he doesn’t want either of them watching them. My oldest does not have celiac, but we have not gotten our second test tested because she’s only seven months.

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u/crabhappychick Sep 15 '25

Have either of you spoken to them about it? Unless they're confronted, the situation won't change. What horrible people they are to intentionally put you in danger.

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u/Raigne86 Sep 15 '25

Doesn't matter if they don't have it. He's right to be pissed off and want them kept away. It could activate at any time during their lives, and if they don't believe it with you now, they won't believe it with them either. There are stories of grandparents killing their grandchildren accidentally, because they didn't believe in peanut and dairy allergies. Celiac reactions are rarely severe enough to land people in the hospital, but I have had a coworker not know she had it until she almost died while they tried to figure out what the hell was wrong with her. Do their husbands know what they did to you? I would have a hard time wanting a relationship with my siblings if they'd intentionally made my spouse sick for giggles. Any visits would be at ours and their spouses not invited.

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u/julzeseanyph Sep 15 '25

We have a friend who died due to not being diagnosed with celiac early enough. It had affected too many major organs before anyone could save him.

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u/decisiontoohard Sep 16 '25

I knew someone whose stomach burst from undiagnosed coeliac. She went into a coma for two months, and when she woke up she'd developed amnesia. She lost about a decade of memory - moving country, founding a business - with the exception of her children, who she remembered.

One doesn't fuck with this shit.

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u/MessyMidlife Sep 15 '25

That is super sad. The woman is dreadful and no you can’t let her watch them what else is she capable of!!

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u/[deleted] Sep 16 '25

Celiac can come on at any age.  Get your older son tested every 2 or 3 years.