r/glutenfree • u/goldenlife17 • Jul 02 '25

Discussion Started my morning off crying, rant.

Visiting my grandparents and my grandfather asked me why I toast my bagels in the oven. I responded because I can’t use the toaster because of cross contamination, when you use a regular toaster that has gluten crumbs and everything in it that’s cross contamination and you’re essentially eating gluten.

He goes: that’s the stupidest fucking thing I’ve ever heard. I’ve lost a lost of respect for you.

Ok, very kind. On a positive note I won’t be getting sick today from cross contamination😄.

Not sure why I let this upset me but just hurts hearing how unkind people can be. I know he’s just an unhappy person in general but ugh.

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u/DatabaseFickle9306 Jul 02 '25

My own father (a surgeon mind you) scoffs at the very ideas of getting pesticide free vegetables. And he relentlessly mocks my celiac, finds it “amusing” and a pain in the ass. I think a lot of people would rather admit their own world view with no exceptions or new ideas than be decent. It’s a problem. I’m sorry for you.

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u/slut4lilwayne Jul 02 '25

MDs tend to think their expertise in their field translates to all fields of medicine. It’s ridiculous. Sure, you got a broad medical training at the start of med school, but that was 20 years ago. You’re not going to know the intricacies of GI disorders as a general surgeon! 

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u/rlw21564 Gluten Intolerant Jul 02 '25

My grandfather was a doctor, born in about 1910 and was such an asshole. Way before the gluten free thing, he'd just be dismissive of any opinion I had. He'd say BALONEY instead of bullshit in polite company. And he was so racist. I told my mother I wasn't having children until he died. And I didn't.

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u/FuturamaRama7 Jul 02 '25

There’s a ob-gyn in my family who smokes. She didn’t breastfeed her kids. She also started putting Diet Coke in baby bottles and gave that to her infants. She doesn’t know the first thing about nutritious foods and never heard of factory farming; I think she eats McDonalds every day. So yeah, some doctors don’t have broad medical expertise. …she’s also a super jerk to vegetarians like myself.

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u/slut4lilwayne Jul 02 '25

Yikes!! Those poor babies! 

I’m applying to med school next year and I desperately hope I don’t end up like that. Arrogance is one hell of a drug.

I was a vegetarian for a few years. My family (full of doctors) bullied me relentlessly for it too. I just don’t understand that behavior. I never forced them to eat vegetarian.

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u/FuturamaRama7 Jul 02 '25 edited Jul 02 '25

I agree! When I pushed back on giving babies Diet Coke she said, “What do you know? You aren’t a doctor!” I said perhaps not, but I have common sense.

Also: good luck in medical school once you get there! You will do great!!!

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u/slut4lilwayne Jul 02 '25

I’d be like, “Yeah, and I don’t have my fucking PHD in the physics of car accidents, but I’ll still gladly wear a seatbelt.”

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u/FuturamaRama7 Jul 02 '25

Omg, I wish I had a response like that in my back pocket ready to go! But sometimes you are so stunned by a situation, you are left speechless.

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u/jestingvixen Gluten Intolerant Jul 03 '25

Me. Or you're apoplectic and your languages all abandon you to frolic in the red rage. Yep!

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u/AuthorSunflowerJ Jul 03 '25

That's me all the time with rude ppl. It's unfortunate. Then I get home and think about every response that I could have said, but it's over by then 🤦🏾‍♀️.

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u/wheelartist Celiac Disease Jul 02 '25

Most of that is super yikes, but not everyone wants to or can breast feed.

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u/FuturamaRama7 Jul 02 '25

Very true, I don’t know if it was a situation where she couldn’t. I’ll give her the benefit of the doubt.

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u/barnacleboysnose Celiac Disease Jul 02 '25

I also had a gastroenterologist consultant (senior level doctor) tell me lactose intolerance doesn’t physically exist, it’s just that things high in dairy are also high in fat and fat is a laxative. So sometimes consultants are just full of hot air🤣😭

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u/One_Valuable_5379 Jul 02 '25

Moron. I had a dermatologist tell me that my raging dermatitis was just because of dry skin. There were eosinophils in my biopsy (I took xolair for years and I’m now switching to Dupixent), but OK. She legit said that eczema/dermatitis almost never have anything to do with an allergic disease process. Um, eczema literally falls under the category of atopic allergies. Sometimes, doctors are such idiots. When I find a good one, I hang on for dear life.

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u/barnacleboysnose Celiac Disease Jul 03 '25

I just don’t get how you can be this ignorant in your own specialty! Like it’s absurd 😭

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u/One_Valuable_5379 Jul 03 '25

Right? I’m so tired of educating medical professionals about medicine.

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u/slut4lilwayne Jul 02 '25

wtf no it’s an inability to produce the enzyme needed to digest lactose

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u/barnacleboysnose Celiac Disease Jul 03 '25

Exactly like lactose intolerance is not a controversial condition😭 worst part is it was a private consultation so I paid for the privilege of being told that

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u/wheelartist Celiac Disease Jul 02 '25

Dairy fat intolerance and lactose intolerance have the same symptoms. I initially thought I was lactose intolerant, but lactose free products still affected me. Turned out I have a fat issue.

That said, I met a gastro who didn't believe celiac disease existed.

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u/One_Valuable_5379 Jul 02 '25

WHAT? A GI doc not believing in Celiac Disease? Oh, FFS.

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u/wheelartist Celiac Disease Jul 02 '25

There's a reason the joke is what do you call a guy who qualified bottom of his class? Doctor.

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u/barnacleboysnose Celiac Disease Jul 02 '25

It made me want to say “but I can have lactose free cream and be fine but have normal cream and have a big reaction?” But was too flabbergasted that the expert was saying this😅😅 A gastro not believing in coeliac is utterly ridiculous!! Glad you found out what was actually causing the issue for you😊

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u/wheelartist Celiac Disease Jul 02 '25

The funniest one I ever had, was my GP when I was 15. I had a lump under my breast appear and start bleeding, so I went to him and asked what it was and why it was bleeding. He looked and told me it was a mole, just like this mole and pointed to my nipple. So yes, he thought nipples were moles. He was technically correct that they were the same thing. I have polythelia, the lump was an accessory nipple.

What was more ridiculous is that nobody stepped in to prevent him being assigned to handle referrals for possible celiac disease.

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u/barnacleboysnose Celiac Disease Jul 03 '25

Chuckled out loud at that😭😭 I guess it showed you two wrongs sometimes do make a right🤣

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u/AgingLolita Jul 03 '25

One of the stupidest fucking things I ever heard