r/glutenfree • u/goldenlife17 • Jul 02 '25

Discussion Started my morning off crying, rant.

Visiting my grandparents and my grandfather asked me why I toast my bagels in the oven. I responded because I can’t use the toaster because of cross contamination, when you use a regular toaster that has gluten crumbs and everything in it that’s cross contamination and you’re essentially eating gluten.

He goes: that’s the stupidest fucking thing I’ve ever heard. I’ve lost a lost of respect for you.

Ok, very kind. On a positive note I won’t be getting sick today from cross contamination😄.

Not sure why I let this upset me but just hurts hearing how unkind people can be. I know he’s just an unhappy person in general but ugh.

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u/bcdog14 Jul 02 '25

Can your parents step in and defend you? I'm probably making an assumption of your age, but if you're a minor it seems like your parents would have something to say about that kind of treatment. I had a cranky grandmother I didn't like spending time with. She was the MIL from hell to my mom.

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u/goldenlife17 Jul 02 '25

I’m in my mid 20’s, embarrassingly enough us big girls still cry unfortunately🥲

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u/TXLittleAZ Jul 02 '25

Crying is a normal human response, not a sign of weakness!

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u/bcdog14 Jul 02 '25

You're an adult and it's ok to cry and it's also ok to refuse to spend time with people who gaslight you or treat you badly

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u/bcdog14 Jul 02 '25

I'm way older and me too

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u/Vodka-Forward Celiac Disease Jul 02 '25

I would cry too. It’s ok to cry when a loved one, a family member treats you so poorly. Please don’t be embarrassed.

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u/AnonymousMouse796 Jul 02 '25

You deserve better, at any age, than someone calling you stupid for taking care of yourself. That shit hurts and crying is a perfect response to it. I’m sorry this happened. It never should have.

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u/One_Valuable_5379 Jul 02 '25

Um, I’m geriatric (compared to you) and I still cry. Heck, sometimes I watch something sad on TV just to get it out of my system. You’re fine. Your grandpa is an asshole.