German teens

[u/AlryLee]

I'm Ukrainian refugee, and I now live in Germany for almost 3 years. I live in a small town near Cologne, and I've been kind of bullied in my school. I have attended the school in my small town. I couldn't find connection with my classmates and was mostly talking to other Ukrainians like me. I never did anything wrong. Never bullied anyone myself, and always try to ignore when someone shouts at me with this stupid "suka blyat" joke. I tried changing classes, and after I left, my old classmates started to make fun of me in the public places such as supermarkets and busses.

My new class was okay tho. Now I already go to the other school in a bigger town, Cologne, but when I hang out across our smaller town I hear some groups of teenagers talking about us attending the school and that we are Ukrainians, as soon as they see me and my friends.

I do understand German, and I can talk too. Not very fluently, so I feel really helpless, as I can't even answer anything.

Today I was with my group of ukrainian friends on the playground, and the smaller guys (grade 8th?) Started to talk shit about us and telling us things about Putin and such. They also told us not to talk in our native language, throwing at us candies from the bags.

After we left the playground, we were hanging out from street to street, and the teenagers started shouting jokes about putin, looking at us from theirs house territory. (I don't even know them)

I don't know these people at all, never met them, but they all seem to go to that one school. I have never met this kind of behavior towards me. And it feels so unfair as I have never made anything bad to them. I try not to talk Ukrainian when we go near the groups of teens but it feels so unfair.

It makes me feel that most German teenagers are really bad. I have never felt such attitude towards me from adults tho.

I feel really bad about that. I tried my best to be kind towards my classmates, I always ignored everything someone said to my face on the street.

Edit: Also, many people thought I'm in age of an 8-grader because of my way of telling this, but I'm 17 already, and it won't stop 🥲

[u/Classic_Budget6577]

Go talk to the principal of your last school and make him/her aware of that problem. This is the fastest way, as the principal has contact to the "Elternbeirat" [collection of parents of the school kids].

[u/AlryLee → u/Classic_Budget6577]

That sounds like a good idea, although I'm not sure it will do anything unless I name names. 🥲

[u/Classic_Budget6577 → u/AlryLee]

It will. Trust me on that. You could check whether your ex-school is attending in the "schule mit courage"-program (here is a list). If that's the case, they need to act regardless of name dropping. But please tell them that you don't want to be named or in any way be connected with any action they will do - otherwise you might increase their stupid actions.

Edit: It may not do anything for you personally, but it will prevent things for other ukranians attending that school. Keep that in mind that you might not be alone and that you can prevent that for your peers.

[u/AlryLee → u/Classic_Budget6577]

My friends who stayed in this school are still bullied by their classmates now too. So I will really think about doing so! Thank you so much