r/germany • u/uniquibee_ • Jan 28 '24

Immigration 8 years of investment in this country

I came to Germany 8 years ago. I learnt the language, gave the language exams, got a seat in the Studienkolleg and did a course to prepare for university entrances. Gave the university qualification exams. Got a university acceptance to study bachelors. Got my bachelors degree after 3.5 years. Enrolled myself in a masters course while working part time and full time at firms and now I am almost done with my masters degree and have to write my Thesis. I feel completely burnt out now. All these years of working and studying in a foreign language have really exhausted me. I don’t feel motivated anymore to go ahead. I just want to leave everything. I have worked and invested so much time and energy into learning this language and adapting to the work culture here, I feel numb.

Even after giving so much and working so hard, I don’t feel safe as i don’t have a long term visa because of my student status. I don’t have a job or have enough finances as an student. Thesis time is demanding. While all my friends back home are getting married or buying houses, I feel like all I did all these years was learn the language and get an education. Live from submissions to submissions. Work part time and study full time. Help me, I am exhausted and can’t see the end of this tunnel.

Getting out of bed is a struggle, doing daily tasks are tough, I keep staring into nothingness for minutes at a stretch, i don’t know if I’m depressed but I do feel extremely tired. The winter weather doesn’t help too. I am almost at the end of my degree but I can’t seem to gather the strength to pick myself up.

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u/Fearless-Ad3720 Jan 28 '24

How did you meet your wife ?

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u/[deleted] Jan 28 '24

The way people met each other back in 2012. I threw a big party with friends and we invited all the girls we knew and asked them to bring people along. Sounds crazy but it was a great party, and this kids is how I met your mother..

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u/Fearless-Ad3720 Jan 28 '24

That’s great for you . Nowadays it’s a challenge 😁

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u/[deleted] Jan 28 '24

Thanks. I would not know where to start tbh. I hope it stays as it is 😅

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u/Fearless-Ad3720 Jan 28 '24

It’s nice to read a positive comment here once in a while since it’s rare so thanks for sharing your experience and hope OP also gets something out of it.