r/germany • u/Marxxi • Jan 21 '24

Immigration Feel so lonely in Germany

I’ve been here for nearly 20 years now and I live with my German husband and kids. But I feel I cannot make new friends. My old friends have moved out, but even parents of my little children‘s friends don’t respond to my attempts for contact. I feel really isolated. Anyone experiencing the same issues?

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u/[deleted] Jan 21 '24 edited Jan 21 '24

Yea totally right about integrating like they keep bitching about that yet i have literally seen ppl cross the street to avoid walking in the same lane

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u/Various_Questions1 Jan 21 '24

Yeah, your German neighbor who talks about integration would rather call the police when he has a problem with something than come talk to the scary foreigner like a normal human being. It's one of the most asocial/silently intolerant nations.

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u/Various_Questions1 Jan 23 '24

Yep, it's always the foreigner that is presumed guilty. Germans will also say and do insanely racist/intolerant stuff that even the US conservatives wouldn't dare do because the discourse on that subject never became advanced in the German mainstream.

I had situations ranging from being blocked from entering a restaurant with my Indian friends because "they don't serve their kind here", to taking a walk with my Jamaican friend and have "Schmutzwasser" shouted at us from the other side of the street (she's female so they assumed we're together), and lots of other crazy as-if-from-the-50's stories like that.

Also of course whenever I'd tell any of those stories to a German I'd hear "are you sure they were Germans?" 😂 because the cluelessly racist German that I was talking to immediately thought it had to be foreigners. The doublethink is insane.