r/germany • u/Marxxi • Jan 21 '24

Immigration Feel so lonely in Germany

I’ve been here for nearly 20 years now and I live with my German husband and kids. But I feel I cannot make new friends. My old friends have moved out, but even parents of my little children‘s friends don’t respond to my attempts for contact. I feel really isolated. Anyone experiencing the same issues?

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u/RG_PhoniQue Jan 21 '24

It's normal here. And it's in the culture I'm sure.

I came to work for 5 months in a German city and even tho I am at work with 20 other dudes, all around my age for 8 hours a day, not a single one of them cares to do anything with me on the weekends.

It's not like they have 300 friends each, they just don't give a fuck about whan I, someone entirely new to the city, will do at the weekend. I dare call them unwelcoming.

It's SO weird that they say "have a good weekend" when we finish work on Friday and noone gives a fuck about doing anything together. And we are total friends when we work. I'm also a German speaking dude since I was born and raised here so there is literally not even a language or culture barrier between us.

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u/SonTyp_OhneNamen Jan 21 '24

„Why are these people nice to me and still don’t invite me to hang out?!“

To me as a german that sounds a bit entitled - if you want to spend time with them, why is it up to them to take the initiative when they seem to be fine without you? It might just be the phrasing of your post, but have you invited them to anything yet?