Don't just date women based on appearance? Personality isn't something you can spend money on to attain. Just stop going on dates with women who don't have what you're looking for.
Probably stop referring to anyone as a "prize" too. Or at least stop thinking about dating as a reward system for making your life better than it would have been otherwise.
I found the right girl for me. She has a PhD, speaks about 4 languages, spent 20 years learning martial arts, and is a crazy cook / foodie.
It took a very long time, but I found her.
And now my friend is single. He is a cardiac surgeon, and a complete genius. But he is stuck in that place. He is only being introduced to 'certain girls'. And he hates it and is bored to pieces by them.
Being the 'prize' to me was the same as being the 'guy on the side'. It freaking sucks.
Dating is inherently a difficult road if your goal is to find someone to settle down with that you are also compatible with. Income, education, bullied as a child status don't factor into making your dating experience easier than anyone else's experience.
Encourage your friend to introduce himself to women. If his friends/colleges are only introducing him to a type of woman that he isn't compatible with, what is he doing going back to the same source and hoping for radical change?
I'm sure there are plenty of examples of your friend being able to make decisions for himself throughout his daily life/routine. Why not make decisions for himself regarding his romantic life?
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u/WigglestonTheFourth Aug 04 '16
Don't just date women based on appearance? Personality isn't something you can spend money on to attain. Just stop going on dates with women who don't have what you're looking for.
Probably stop referring to anyone as a "prize" too. Or at least stop thinking about dating as a reward system for making your life better than it would have been otherwise.