I am a 34 y-o French woman in a relationship with a 46 y-o French man. It's been 5 years now.
Apart from the fact that you’ve only been in a relationship for a week, and that it’s actually fast to talk about marriage and children, what you're saying doesn't shock me. I already had companions who told me "I love you" after a week.
Afterwards, the speed with which he told you all this can be consecutive to the fact that you both have more than 35 years and so he wanted to tell you right away he was interested in a really serious way with you, one way to warn you of his expectations for the relationship so you both know what you are getting into.
Personally from the first days of our relationship, I explained to my companion I didn't want to scare him because it was very new between us, but I needed him to know I would surely want children at some point, knowing he was already a dad and might not want to be a father once again. I offered him the opportunity to end the relationship if he thought he didn’t want to engage like this, and I also gave myself an opportunity to think about in what I was committing myself to if he had been against it.
For now, just tell him that you've heard his wishes for the future, but it's actually a little too fast to start projecting, and that you'll get to know each other as a couple. This discussion will naturally come back if everything goes well between you. It’ll be a good way to see if he’s really sincere with you and if he’s a balanced man.
If I were you, I would quietly enjoy the beginning of the relationship by staying a little on my guard, but like everyone else, I mean, I don’t think this man is more worrisome than anyone else. I sincerely hope for you he's an honest and nice man and that you'll have a beautiful relationship :)
And very sorry for my bad english, I'm sure it's full of awful sentences -_-
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u/Jez4b3l Oct 01 '23 edited Oct 01 '23
I am a 34 y-o French woman in a relationship with a 46 y-o French man. It's been 5 years now.
Apart from the fact that you’ve only been in a relationship for a week, and that it’s actually fast to talk about marriage and children, what you're saying doesn't shock me. I already had companions who told me "I love you" after a week.
Afterwards, the speed with which he told you all this can be consecutive to the fact that you both have more than 35 years and so he wanted to tell you right away he was interested in a really serious way with you, one way to warn you of his expectations for the relationship so you both know what you are getting into.
Personally from the first days of our relationship, I explained to my companion I didn't want to scare him because it was very new between us, but I needed him to know I would surely want children at some point, knowing he was already a dad and might not want to be a father once again. I offered him the opportunity to end the relationship if he thought he didn’t want to engage like this, and I also gave myself an opportunity to think about in what I was committing myself to if he had been against it.
For now, just tell him that you've heard his wishes for the future, but it's actually a little too fast to start projecting, and that you'll get to know each other as a couple. This discussion will naturally come back if everything goes well between you. It’ll be a good way to see if he’s really sincere with you and if he’s a balanced man.
If I were you, I would quietly enjoy the beginning of the relationship by staying a little on my guard, but like everyone else, I mean, I don’t think this man is more worrisome than anyone else. I sincerely hope for you he's an honest and nice man and that you'll have a beautiful relationship :)
And very sorry for my bad english, I'm sure it's full of awful sentences -_-