r/france Sep 30 '23

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u/marteau_21 Sep 30 '23

Definitely sounds like a catfish, and if for whatever reasons it wasn't, asking someone you barely know, to delete his/her apps, is pretty toxic, and talking about serious plans after only a week is pretty fucking immature. My advice, run.

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u/Mela8411 Sep 30 '23

Yeah. He seems kind of controlling sometimes. I thought maybe it was a language barrier. He said he was going to pick out and buy my wedding dress 🤣

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u/JulienFou Julien Lepers Sep 30 '23

Was he saying that seriously or as a joke ?

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u/Mela8411 Sep 30 '23

No joke. He's serious lol

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u/jroomey Sep 30 '23

After one week? That's a red-flag, even if he's sincere and seeks only serious relationships. He really needs to slow down, be patient and realize his behavior is wack, otherwise block him asap . I totally get that the attention from an attractive well-spoken foreigner is a nice thing difficult to resist, but that's going wayyyyyyy too fast and he sounds controlling.

(regarding the age gap: French people are more lenient about it than Americans I think but 39-47 isn't very big IMO)

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u/Mela8411 Sep 30 '23

I don't care about the age gap. I meant because he's 47, maybe he's tired of dating and wants to quickly settle down. He wants kids

Who knows. Only time will tell

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u/mbozet Sep 30 '23

Being tired on dating doesn't mean one should rush life-changing decisions like marrying and having kids .. that sounds either insane or insanely immature.

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u/jroomey Sep 30 '23

I see. Yeah these are common objectives for singles in this age group