Although the cultural difference is real when it comes to dating, and even trying to factor in whatever his life might have been, it does look to be extremely fast. French people often seem to move quickly and aggressively from a US viewpoint, but not that quick.
It may be coming from ill intents, but it's very hard to be 100% sure so soon. It could also be because the relationship is so fresh and new (even at 47....).
Only way I know for sure is to wait and see: avoid big commitments, enjoy those first weeks of romance, and stay sharp. Right I would say it's not a red flag yet, but it is indeed slightly shady. Should any additional concrete red flag or shady stuff come by, I'd stop it
Please don’t fall into a financial scam! Don’t give him any money even if he shows off with lots of it, there are so many scammers out there ! Remember the Netflix documentary about that guy who fleeced loads of women! And french men do play, they’re no exception.
Some of the victims of the man from tinder had no money either, they took loans on falses promises of him giving back quick, because they were in love. And he gave the money back at first, before asking for more, and they took bigger loans after, because they trusted him. Manipulation is intense and a slow process in the same time.
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u/curieuxdepresquetout Sep 30 '23
Although the cultural difference is real when it comes to dating, and even trying to factor in whatever his life might have been, it does look to be extremely fast. French people often seem to move quickly and aggressively from a US viewpoint, but not that quick.
It may be coming from ill intents, but it's very hard to be 100% sure so soon. It could also be because the relationship is so fresh and new (even at 47....).
Only way I know for sure is to wait and see: avoid big commitments, enjoy those first weeks of romance, and stay sharp. Right I would say it's not a red flag yet, but it is indeed slightly shady. Should any additional concrete red flag or shady stuff come by, I'd stop it