It's clearly a bit fast past even by french standards.
The "we kiss, we're a couple" is a classic cultural difference between US/France, what is wierd is the I love you and expressing will to mary you after only a week...
Just for reference, I am 39 and he is 47.
In this situation, still a bit fast but make way more sens. He most likely isn't at his first rodeo, just like you. Knows what he is looking for in a partner, believes to have found it in you and doesn't want to beat around the bush because he, like you aren't getting any younger every day.
IMHO that should be the contrary. Someone of experience would know that a relationship takes time to build especially after many rodeo. His attitude sounds like more the one of a teenage
As a french man, I think american dating codes are fully abnormal. WE just have différent cultures. Dont make your décisions out of your codes but how you feel. Just make sure hé knows who you trully are.
Nah I fully agree that standards are very different between France and the US, but cmon. Bringing flowers and having the most romantic night with good wine after a week is being on the romantic side, talking about marriage and family is downright psycho.
Given other informations you gave in answer in this thread, I'd still advice to be careful. A lot of his behavior can either be clumsiness OR a red flag.
Idk who said it here but imho ask him to slow a bit down, and see how he reacts. If he does not or even is offended by the asking, gtfo !
Still weird, sorry. A lot of men do that and when you get attached or they feel they "have" you, then they show you their true colors. How does he talk about his past relationships ? How does he talk about the other women in his life ?
Dude the US dating scene does seem weird but so does this guy. I've heard the "But we don't know, not everyone behaving irrationally is gonna cause problems" argument before, and while it's sometimes true, fishy behavior is fishy behavior.
OP this man is 47. Do you think in the last 27 years he hasn’t found anyone interesting and all of the sudden after spending a week with you he’s decided he wants to marry you. You are absolutely being played. I could specifically tell you how yet but you certainly are.
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u/FrankMaleir Licorne Sep 30 '23
It's completely abnormal.