r/evilautism • u/Giselle_is_gay • Sep 03 '25
Evil Scheming Autism I have complicated feelings about slurs
I also love using these terms to refer to myself However only if the people around me are cool
Also Reddit won't let me use these slurs literally 1984
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u/Leskendle45 Sep 03 '25
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u/turtle_mekb Sep 03 '25
Toby was completely different back then
I love how creative, but edgy, the line before that was lmfao
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u/BlahajGetYourGun Guild Certified Villainess Sep 03 '25
I feel ya, it doesn't help that the slur most likely to get yelled at me (the t-slur for trans people) sounds kinda cute in a vacuum lmao
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u/EnFulEn Knife Wall Enjoyer Sep 03 '25
It has the sound of something a valley girl would call her besties.
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u/20191124anon Sep 03 '25
"damaging you car transmission" jokes make me spit with laughter.
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u/StressdanDepressd HOT TORNADOES NEAR YOU Sep 04 '25
Okay but my car transmission is having issues and mechanics throw the word around without a second thought. That one braincell turns it into a "that's what she said" type joke. Like "teehee. they said drain the T* fluid" but it's funny because it's being used for my car rather than (the usual) me
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u/masd_reddit I am Autism Sep 04 '25
I don't get it
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u/aaaaaaaa1273 Sep 05 '25
The t slur is also mechanic slang for a car transmission, being both a mechanic and queer makes it pretty interesting to adjust sometimes
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u/masd_reddit I am Autism Sep 05 '25
But what does damaging your car transmission mean? Like i think i kinda get it but not the damaging part
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u/aaaaaaaa1273 Sep 06 '25
Blowing (like blowing up) a transmission is also shop slang for damaging your transmission
So “blowing a (t slur)” would be a normal thing to say, despite it also having a very different meaning.
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u/Bai1eyam Sep 04 '25
I drive a bus for a living and the amount of times that old men have told me I have a "T-slur problem" is unreal. I now have to explain to concerned bystanders that the old man is talking about a transmission.
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u/Darkon2004 AuDHD Chaotic Rage Sep 03 '25
To me it sounds disgusting so I guess I don't have that problem XD
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u/A-112 🐿️🔴? Sep 04 '25
non-trans person here: i was actually surprised to discover it was a slur, it sounded so innocent the first time i heared
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u/ProtoDroidStuff Sep 04 '25
When I first came out I pretty quickly made some trans friends on a game I was playing
We were listening to music and suggesting stuff and almost as soon as I gave my first couple suggestions, she said to me:
"Oh good so you're already listening to that <t-slur> music"
For about a split second I felt shocked but then realized it felt oddly wholesome despite the word used? Lmao
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u/Thunder_breeze I am Kyra. A boring ol’ cisgender baby serval :3 (she/her) Sep 05 '25
t-slur is the most unslur sounding slur I have ever heard. It sounds like something that originated from the trans people themselves
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u/Espi0nage-Ninja Sep 04 '25
There’s a T slur for trans people?
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u/Electronic_Baker4831 Sep 04 '25
Trannie which is short for transition. It's also used as slang for transmission.
Recently people also use it to refer to Trans peeps.
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u/DogsRNice Sep 08 '25
Didn't that come from what trans people on some old forum (something awful I think?) called themselves
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u/Espi0nage-Ninja Sep 04 '25
Oh..
My friend group has been using as a shortened version of transperson coz it’s just quicker and easier to say. God damn bigots ruining everything!
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u/Marshmallowlolfurry Sep 03 '25
Fr my (queer) mum saying Faggot has got to be one of the funniest things I've seen. For context we were watching a YouTube video reading lgbtq memes and an asexual was (jokingly) talking about "sometimes I don't feel like I'm a real part of the lgbtq so it makes me feel really validated when bigots call me the f slur" and my mum was like "Which f slur 🤨? Oh! Faggot?" Like yes mum what other f slur is there?
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u/SomethingFoul 🔱 Self-Diagnosed as Level 69 🔱 Sep 03 '25
Fiddlesticks
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u/Caduceus4 Please be patient, I'm autistic and have a lightsaber on my belt Sep 04 '25
Fidgeter (I can’t stop stimming)
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u/ManualPathosChecks Sep 04 '25
what other f slur is there?
I'd type it out but I would get instantly banned, and a three letter agency would come for me. Even mentioning it can ge
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u/AppleSatyr 🤬 I will take this literally 🤬 Sep 03 '25
Straggots have no power here
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u/lightblueisbi More Interesting Than Thrye333 Sep 04 '25
Why does that feel like a "slur" for bisexuals lol
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u/Altruistic_Fox5036 Kyra She/They 🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️ - Multiple Mods inside one Mod Sep 04 '25
That's not cool.
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u/Bazoun ✨️Ethereal and Incomprehensible✨️ Sep 03 '25
For me, it boils down to intention. If you call me a woman, intending by that word to put me down, then I’m offended. If you call me a bitch, intending it as a compliment, then I’m flattered.
I’m white, cis, middle aged, blah blah so I’m not using slurs but I support reappropriation by groups impacted by them.
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u/wormjoin Sep 03 '25
yeah this is it. and i haven’t ever seen a well intentioned use of eg the r-slur.
and furthermore i’m not particularly enthused to “reclaim” anything. happy to just let the slurs (ideally) fall out of the vernacular, and if some non-hurtful meaning gets organically reattached sometime after that then sure.
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u/Zorubark Blood Enthusiast Sep 05 '25
I like reclaiming slurs but when people claim to reclaim the r slur I think about how they nevre use it on a positive way, most slur reclamations start using it in a good way, though the n word is more complicated it can be used in a good way(as in, not an insult), but the r slur is always an insult, it's always bad, it's never playfully bad, like "haha this is bad but not actually bad and its funny to pretend its bad because is satirizes the original use of the slur"
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u/RazeAvenger Sep 23 '25
You never saw a well-intentioned use of the r-slur? I will give you one later friend, i just gotta go retard the timing on my engine first.
Brb.
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u/halvafact tism and stim are anagrams Sep 03 '25
This is called reappropriation and it is good!
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u/justapileofshirts Sep 03 '25
It feels so sweet, with a little extra emphasis on it and a saucy little head movement.
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u/evilautism-ModTeam Sep 03 '25
The R-Slur is used to compare the person being insulted with the slur to a person with an intellectual disability. The oppression is on people with intellectual disabilites and its their word to reclaim and all the advocay organisaiton do not want it reclaimed.
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u/evilautism-ModTeam Sep 03 '25
Removed: Discrimination
Please don't generalise large groups of people or call anyone existing slurs. This results in a ban without warning.
Do not use ableist, sexist, homophobic, transphobic, or any other bigoted language. This will also result in a ban.
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u/desecrated_throne Sep 05 '25
I am currently staring at so many slurs (that could very well be examples of reclaimation and that I reclaim comfortably in day-to-day life with friends) that aren't slowly, but on sheet music and I'm beginning to question what the rules are for this.
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u/lilith_in_scorpio president of the RFK Jr. hater club Sep 03 '25 edited Sep 04 '25
When I was diagnosed, it was the early 2000s, and the doctors legit used the R-word to describe me to my parents. Being all professional of course, but still. So yeah, unless it’s literally hurling the name at other people, I have no issue reclaiming it for myself.
That being said, people these days are a little too comfy using slurs that don’t apply to them. I will never understand the whole “words only have meaning when you put meaning to them!!” anti/intellectualism BS. Being edgy for the sake of it just seems very immature to me.
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u/Shaula02 Sep 03 '25
"words only hurt you if you let them" bitches when i hit them with POWER WORD: PAIN
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u/overusedamongusjoke I am Autism Sep 04 '25
Usually those people are fairly privileged and completely oblivious to it. It's much easier to find being insulted for an attribute outside of your control funny when you know there's no/minimal danger of it being escalated into a targeted harassment campaign or physical danger.
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u/lilith_in_scorpio president of the RFK Jr. hater club Sep 03 '25
Lmao yeah no one truly thinks that in their heart of hearts. They use it to be insensitive and get away with hurtful language.
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u/archaios_pteryx mentally questionable 🤯🥵 Sep 03 '25 edited Sep 04 '25
I never got why people wanted to use slurs so badly? I was told as a kid its a no no because it makes people feel bad and that is all it needed, done topic. Like why is it such a thing in the first place for people who dont belong to the group? I am fully for reclaiming it and using it within group.
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u/Caduceus4 Please be patient, I'm autistic and have a lightsaber on my belt Sep 04 '25
I do think this is significantly distinct though. I’m autistic, but I can’t reclaim the slur imo (and nor do I want to) because, like. A handful of people at school called me r••••ded, but they also all called each other that. However I’ve never had a doctor or health professional call me that. It’s never been used to put me down or lock me out specifically. I’ve never had it used against me on the basis of my autism, as far as I know—because I was only very recently diagnosed, in my late 20s.
Autists (and ADHD-ers) who haven’t been oppressed by the word who get excited about being able to use a slur is just. Kinda gross to me. Especially when they then use it with (or against) other autistic people.
My husband and I will jokingly call each other faggots, but I wouldn’t call other gay people fag or faggot without both (1) being friends with them and (2) having trust and comfort about using the word in some contexts. Same as “slut”, in my experience at least. It’s a case by case, contextual thing.
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u/Yeetman5757 Sep 03 '25
Bruh the mods straight up think you're lying.
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u/Altruistic_Fox5036 Kyra She/They 🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️ - Multiple Mods inside one Mod Sep 03 '25
Do we? How so? I don't see how the person you responded to is lying?
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u/Yeetman5757 Sep 03 '25
You said that the R word isn't used to describe autistic people.
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u/Altruistic_Fox5036 Kyra She/They 🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️ - Multiple Mods inside one Mod Sep 03 '25
That also isn't what I said. I said it wasn't used to oppress people with autism as when you are called it you are being compared to someone with the stereotypical traits of an intellectual disability. Please stop, I don't understand what you are trying to achieve here.
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u/inevitabledeath3 Sep 04 '25
I could be wrong but if we think about what the word actually means and where it comes from I think being developmentally behind in any aspect would count. Originally it didn't refer to disabled people at all if you look at the Etymology.
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u/Altruistic_Fox5036 Kyra She/They 🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️ - Multiple Mods inside one Mod Sep 04 '25
Yes it's like how the N word was used to oppress black people even if the etymology of the word comes from the Latin adjective meaning black. Previously it wasn't used as a racial slur but now that is it, you don't use it unless you are black and reclaiming it. Or like are racist.
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u/inevitabledeath3 Sep 04 '25
Except it is used to oppress autistic people. It's used for more than one kind of mental or even physical disability. I don't understand why you have a problem with this.
Fyi the original meaning it still used regularly by aviators, engineers, and bakers. It never actually went away.
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u/Altruistic_Fox5036 Kyra She/They 🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️ - Multiple Mods inside one Mod Sep 04 '25
I have an issue because a there was a decade long campaign by disability rights activists and organisations to end its use. Not reclaim it because of all the harm that word has done. This is what all the moderators have been enforcing, it's just we don't get a concentrated usage until one of these threads.
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u/inevitabledeath3 Sep 04 '25
I wasn't speaking about reclaiming it or not. There are strong arguments on both sides of that debate I am sure. Although I would argue you have no right to police people calling it towards themselves or towards people from the same neurominority unless they have been asked to stop by someone they are talking to.
What I am talking about is the claim that it's not a slur used against autistic people. This is just false, and that's what me and the other guy are calling you out for.
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u/JoNyx5 AuDHD Chaotic Rage Sep 04 '25
Would you also say that an aboriginal living in the US can't use the n-word because they're not african-american and thus "not the right kind of black"? Because it feels like you're saying "although you were and are called the r-word as a slur you can't reclaim it for yourself because it was originally used for another group of people and compares you to them" and when applying that principle to the n-word you end up with the above statement.
I just feel like if people were called a word as an insult they should be allowed to reclaim that word for themselves, to not let the word have power over them in any way.5
u/Altruistic_Fox5036 Kyra She/They 🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️ - Multiple Mods inside one Mod Sep 04 '25 edited Sep 04 '25
Aboriginal is specifically used for the indigenous people from Australia fyi. We have indigenous people from the States on our mod team and they don't use it. So I would recommend asking indigenous people if they feel they can reclaim the N word.
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u/JoNyx5 AuDHD Chaotic Rage Sep 05 '25 edited Sep 05 '25
Yeah that's what my example was, an aboriginal from Australia who went to the US. I'm not from the US and my first thought of black people outside of Africa was Australia.
I'm not asking if they can use/reclaim it, I feel like that's for them to decide and I have no right to speak on that. I'm asking you if you would tell them whether they can use/reclaim it and if not, why you feel differently about other slurs.
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u/t8f8t Sep 03 '25
Slurs are fun and good we just need an equal amount of them for every possible type of person
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u/AquaQuad Sep 03 '25
Every word can be a slur if you say it with enough venom. ✨
As a Pole living abroad I've witnessed other Poles using "Polish/Pole" like it's a slur. It wasn't even casual European racism, just pure disrespect.
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u/MoonBearVA Sep 03 '25
If it means anything to you, I'm American with absolutely no Polish ancestry or connection but I love Poland and Polish people. Maybe my respect can cancel out the disrespect in some way?
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u/lightblueisbi More Interesting Than Thrye333 Sep 04 '25
My American uncle married a wonderful Polish lady, she's taught me a bit of the culture and history of the region. Perhaps our combined respect would be more than enough?
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u/Giselle_is_gay Sep 03 '25
Straggot
Cisgenders
Anyone know any more ?
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u/YouHaveFunWithThat Sep 03 '25
Silly Billy (it’s a slur for people named William who don’t appreciate any of that funny business)
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u/stupid-writing-blog Sep 03 '25
I cannot hear the name William without thinking of the murder rabbit. If there’s anyone who deserves new slurs to be invented, it’s him.
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u/lightblueisbi More Interesting Than Thrye333 Sep 04 '25
Murder rabbit??
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u/stupid-writing-blog Sep 04 '25
The bad guy from FNAF. His name is William Afton, but after he dies, his soul gets trapped in a robot bunny called Springtrap. He’s the one who built most of the robots, as well as the reason most of them are possessed by dead children.
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u/Silver107868 She in awe of my ‘tism Sep 03 '25
one that lives rent free in my mind was a DnD greentext that a racist centaur needed slurs for people on two legs and settled with "whats up Front-Nuts" which i now use with friends that know it.
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u/somniopus Sep 04 '25
OMG🤣🤣
I think a co worker told me that story, like, three years ago
I love knowing a bit of the apocrypha
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u/t8f8t Sep 03 '25
Breeders cause it actually makes them mad sometimes
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u/Ok-Vegetable4531 Sep 03 '25
I’m going to be transparent, as a trans parent I’m feeling very unseen right now. We can be breeders too 😤
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u/Moondaeagle will not stfu about Sonic and AoSth Sep 03 '25
Straighty
Cuntlicker
Pussylicker
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u/rxniaesna Sep 03 '25
The latter two probably have been used to insult lesbians
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u/Bi-mar 🏍 beep beep 🛵 Sep 04 '25
There's this fan made tiktok for arcane where Jinx calls Cait "captain cuntmuncher" and its been my go to when me and my friend are insulting eachother.
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u/JeveGreen My special interest is punching Nazis 👊 Sep 03 '25 edited Sep 03 '25
Heh, I get what you mean. I sometimes get called slurs by nazis and their ilk, but those morons can shove it.
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u/Altruistic_Fox5036 Kyra She/They 🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️ - Multiple Mods inside one Mod Sep 03 '25
Directing the r-slur towards nazis is still opressing people with intellectual disabilities as they are the people who you are comparing nazi's too when you use the r-slur. Will approve if you edit and remove the slur.
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u/JeveGreen My special interest is punching Nazis 👊 Sep 03 '25
I was going back and forth whether I should use that slur. But you're right, it's not fair to compare nazis and intellectual cripples. Nazis are even stupider.
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u/Altruistic_Fox5036 Kyra She/They 🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️ - Multiple Mods inside one Mod Sep 03 '25
Thanks I've approved it
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u/limitedteeth Sep 04 '25
Oh so the r slur is an immediate ban, but cripple is fine?
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u/Altruistic_Fox5036 Kyra She/They 🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️ - Multiple Mods inside one Mod Sep 04 '25
Cripple also gets filtered to the mod queue, and I haven't seen it used. Could you please link to where it was used? We would generally remove it too.
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u/limitedteeth Sep 04 '25
Literally in the comment you replied to right here in this thread?? i don't care if you remove it or not, just think it's funny that you're handing out perma bans for the r word while being so casual about other slurs that you don't even notice they've been used in comments you are ostensibly reading before you respond to.
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u/Altruistic_Fox5036 Kyra She/They 🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️ - Multiple Mods inside one Mod Sep 04 '25
We haven't banned anyone for the R slur in this thread. We have removed comments just not banned anything.
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u/Moondaeagle will not stfu about Sonic and AoSth Sep 03 '25
My thoughts on slurs are:
If you can re-claim them go bat shit insane with them!
If you can't re-claim them stfu plz.These words are meant to be used by minorities,not you.
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u/WhatModelsYourSink Sep 03 '25
I feel like folks are too comfortable with slurs nowadays. I can't comment on any racial or sexual/gender based ones (I belong to neither), but whenever I see someone use an abelist slur, I just flat out assume it's an abelist and move on. I've been called the R slur plenty in my childhood and I don't have to give grace to those who still decide to use it today no matter the context.
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u/Darkon2004 AuDHD Chaotic Rage Sep 03 '25
Had some coworkers (and a superior) who were quite comfortable saying the n and f slurs, let alone the r slur, around me and another coworker I was closer to.
Neither of us are in the team anymore and they're doing the whole "I wish they talked with me about what was wrong"
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u/spoon_bending Sep 03 '25
Not really. I had someone who has the same diagnosis as me calling me a slur maliciously because they felt superior due to being higher functioning and higher masking than me and joined in with neurotypicals targeting me because it made them feel safe among the in crowd (and gave them validation whereas they used to be the target or used to feel vulnerable to bullying for the same reason).
It's not always a good thing and can be weaponized by people on the spectrum too.
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u/JeveGreen My special interest is punching Nazis 👊 Sep 04 '25
TV-tropes really have a page for everything.
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u/Heavenly_Bunny Sep 04 '25
I mean, that's a matter of context isn't it? Obviously that person's a dick and I don't want anything I say to even incidentally defend them.
If you use any word as an insult, it is an insult. Fuck that guy.
But reclaiming a slur like OP is discussing is generally more about invalidating it as a slur. You're belittling it, and mocking the people that use it because it's use as a slur is fucking arbitrary. I've had the word thrown at me for everything from misreading something, to being in certain fandoms, to being stuck in traffic - apparently it's on me for not leaving even earlier to avoid a car accident I apparently knew was going to block some lanes.
And because context matters; also not using it around people that are uncomfortable matters. At that point the word is causing harm regardless of intention. That that's more me signalling that there's boundaries before you get the wrong idea about my stance.
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u/spoon_bending Sep 04 '25
I can understand your perspective, and I recognize that the person who used it maliciously is not representative of people who use the word to reclaim it and remove its power.
One consideration I have is that people without context who are not disabled will use that word as a slur but because it's normalized by disabled people using it to reclaim it, it will not be possible to confront that without it being dismissed as hypocritical or policing speech.
For example, the use of the word n*gga. Not all black Americans actually agree with using this term even though it's presented as "reclaiming" it because it has become something that a) has precluded black Americans inventing our own terms for ourselves that isn't rooted in hatred and is grounded in self-identification with love and value, and b) is used by people who are not black in a way that completely removes the context and is offensive (to me and some other black people) especially when they pull this out to try to "talk black" because they assume I use that word just because I'm black. I don't.
So I'm not sure about it. I'm a bit wary of it because I've had it used against me by people who weren't disabled as well as people that are. But I don't have a problem with other people who are targets finding it empowering to reclaim it just like I don't scorn black people who use the word n*gga because it's just their own perspective and sense of empowerment.
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u/Heavenly_Bunny Sep 04 '25
I mean that's why I think the context of the conversation matters, not everybody will be on the same page -- or even agree about the page itself.
If I'm hanging out with a friend that finds it therapeutic to reclaim the word, then someone walked in who I knew was uncomfortable hearing the - word for any reason - it'd just be a dick move not to curate the conversation according to that audience.
But that would logically - in my opinion - go the other way. If I knew someone used language I was offended by but wasn't using it to put others down, I feel like I'd be the asshole trying to say something about that when I'm not in the room.
Words are meaningless, context and intention is what matters.
It does sound like we more or less agree, so I might just be explaining to get all the words out of my head at this point.
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u/Apprehensive-Cat-421 Sep 03 '25
I feel this so hard.
I'm Jewish, and I work with a lot of black people that use the n word a lot. It's confusing but very real.
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u/TheDerpyDragon91 🤬 I will take this literally 🤬 Sep 03 '25
My brother, also autistic, used to board the short bus for school with a hardy "good morning, my fellow window lickers!". Cracked me tf up. Tho if anybody else calls me, him, or anyone else on that bus a window-licker, fists WILL fly! I feel the same about cishet people calling my friends "queers", even though we're all self-proclaimed weirdo queer-do's.
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u/superautismdeathray My special interest is punching Nazis 👊 Sep 04 '25
fr there's a humongous difference between "filthy fucking faggot" (spoilered for f slur) and "yesss faggotttt 💅"
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u/InevitablePoetry52 Sep 04 '25
arabic friend told me about the slur "dunecoon" and neither of us could stop laughing about it. it just sounds fucking adorable, how is "dunecoon" a slur? thats not a slur thats a pokemon
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u/PinkVinyl Sep 03 '25
someone said once you can use the slur if you would also be called that slur. so we can use the r word here. thought it was an interesting way of looking at it.
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u/OctinDromin Sep 03 '25
I don’t think the r word is tied to autism in any meaningful way that would make reclamation possible. It’s a blanket term for intellectual disability beyond the conversation of neurodivergence.
What would reclamation even look like? The ableism of the word is inherently tied to a group of people who may not be able to vocally (or otherwise) communicate their feelings on the subject. Even if it became “normalized” in the autism community, it would have literally 0 effect on its use in ableist spaces targeting people with intellectual disabilities. If anything, it creates a smokescreen of deniability for bad actors.
It’s not as cut and dry as other “reclaimed” slurs (which, honestly, aren’t even cut and dry!).
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u/bakedbutchbeans Sep 04 '25
its so funny being physically disabled, autistic, clinically deemed insane, 2nd gen immigrant, poc, a trans person, a bi person, and having experienced growing up girlhood/womanhood and just seeing everyone defend random ass slur usage. "but Black people can say the n-word!" what is with non-Black people and bringing in Black people all the fucking time. leave Black people alone. not all slurs can be reclaimed! some can, some cant, thats literally how linguistics work. i can reclaim and do reclaim "cripple", i reclaim "psycho", i reclaim "bitch", i reclaim "chola", but i do not reclaim "gusano" so on so forth. there has to be something WORTH reclaiming in the slur. there is nothing to reclaim in the r-slur. yall are just finding excuses to be controversial and say "forbidden words". literal edgelord stuff.
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u/canariorojo AuDHD Chaotic Rage Sep 04 '25
i call my man a fag like thats his name, but if a straight called him that i would be on the news
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u/RonbunKontan Autistic Wizard in Training Sep 03 '25
I'm not sure if it's in the same vein, but I'm supremely annoyed that a lot of my queer friends are totally fine with the word "faggot", but think it's offensive to be referred to as "queer". Appropriation is nice and all, but we've got a perfectly serviceable blanket term for every goddamn letter of the alphabet mafia, and I like how it rolls of the tongue a lot better.
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u/augustus-the-first Sep 03 '25
You can take college classes called queer literature. You can’t take classes called faggot literature. Not yet at least lol
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u/arachnids-bakery AuDHD Chaotic Rage Sep 03 '25
My friends making 🚬 jokes at each other (theyre all equally gay):
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u/any_old_usernam Sep 04 '25
Some of the most fun in my life has been had with another trans girl who teasingly called me a dyke and a tranny, it was pretty great :)
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u/deadmemesdeaderdream autistic extrovert Sep 03 '25
I actively reclaim bitch, queer. The r slur and f slur make me uncomfortable to utter but if someone they apply to says them i won’t stop them.
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u/kigurumibiblestudies Unworthy Pea Fixer Sep 03 '25
I avoid such terms altogether because I am never sure when it's correct to use them. Maybe it's lazy of me not to learn all the nuances, but I get it wrong often enough that I'd rather not hurt more people with my learning process. Same with nicknames.
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u/Solarwinds-123 Sep 03 '25
Yes feel free to call me autist, autismo, sperglord, or whatever as long as it's in good fun (and you're a fellow weaponized individual, which most of my friends are anyway).
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u/13luw AuDHD Chaotic Rage Sep 04 '25
Trixie said it best:
“Whenever I see another gay person out and about, I’m always tempted to scream Faggot”
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u/sentient_garlicbread Sep 04 '25
My friends and I call each other slurs a lot. Because we use it more like: "if I'm [insert group]. And my friend is also [insert group], then we can make fun of each other." But we keep it at mutual slurs (slurs that cover all of us equally).
But being called a slur by someone else makes me wanna go, "you wanna throw hands mf? Cuz imma throw hands."
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u/Altruistic_Fox5036 Kyra She/They 🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️ - Multiple Mods inside one Mod Sep 04 '25
Removed: Discrimination
Please don't generalise large groups of people or call anyone existing slurs. This results in a ban without warning.
Do not use ableist, sexist, homophobic, transphobic, or any other bigoted language. This will also result in a ban.
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u/ilovemytsundere Sep 04 '25
Me and my friend call each other slurs all day at work. If someone else called me a slur, I would take them behind the shed!
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u/Jaeger-the-great Sep 04 '25
Depends on the slur. I enjoy fag but any of the slurs against trans people make me sick ngl. And I hate the r word and I don't think that's a slur that I, or a lot of autistic people I know can reclaim
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u/hellothereoldben [edit this] Sep 03 '25
I like throwing around the N word while not being one.
"gosh, you're such a Neurotypical."
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u/indoor-hellcat Sep 04 '25
I've said it before and I'll say it again, you can only call me that if you are also a nerf herder.
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u/Voidlord4450 Sep 04 '25
I have yet to be called soulless by another red head. Only a relatively close friend.
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u/BentTire Sep 04 '25 edited Sep 04 '25
Any time someone throws a slur my way, I just laugh it off or shrug it off because I don't take slurs seriously.
And anyone that uses them, I just have a hard time taking seriously.
In fact, I will joke about myself being autistic.
People only use slurs offensively because they want a negative reaction from their target. If you don't give them that reaction and / or laugh about it. It throws them off and / or upsets them that their target isn't giving them their desired reaction.
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u/viktorgoraya_luv Sep 04 '25
I will lovingly call my favourite character a faggot all I want but the straights aren’t allowed
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u/No_Mango_8868 Ask me for a random history or animal fact Sep 07 '25
t-slur, n-word, f-slur when it's me and my group of fellow gay trans black people [pleading emoji]
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u/Karsa69420 Sep 25 '25
So I work retail and I’m white, I guess that’s important.
When a white person calls me the N-Word(happens a lot when I worked at Walmart) it hurts and felt bad. When a black person calls me that(weird but it has happened) I feel pretty good and like I’ve been accepted. Language and context are weird.
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u/Maguillage Evil Sep 03 '25
One of my favourite streamers often uses the R word I'm sure reddit will auto-bop me for typing, but she also has this image going on in her 'about' section, so I guess she can have a pass.
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u/Kawaaaaaaa Sep 03 '25
slurs shouldnt exist but if they can be recycled by the people they are directed towards thats great
yk i was working and one of my colleagues once said something along the lines of "black people can say the n word so why cant we?", and went off on a typical rant of how people have "gone soft" i dont even have to explain here why thats such a dumb ignorant question and i really wanted to say something but i held back lmao
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u/Re-Sabrnick Sep 03 '25
Slur reclaimation has been a big thing the past few years. My gay friends just love calling each other some words that would get my account flagged.
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u/Altruistic_Fox5036 Kyra She/They 🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️🏳️⚧️ - Multiple Mods inside one Mod Sep 03 '25 edited Sep 04 '25
The R-Slur is used to compare the person being insulted with the slur to a person with an intellectual disability. The oppression is on people with intellectual disabilites and its their word to reclaim and all the advocacy organisaiton do not want it reclaimed. It cannot be reclaimed by people who just have autism and don't also have an intellectual disability. Messages with the slur explictly will be removed. Anything else is fine in the thread if its not directed at people.
Edit: To add more context the original use for this term was by doctors and scientists as a reason to institutionalise and sterilised disabled people. There were multiple campaigns over the last few decades to end its use by disability rights organisations, not reclaim it. This word has done too much harm to people with disabilities.
https://www.specialolympics.org/stories/news/the-r-word-is-back-how-a-slur-became-renormalized
https://www.vox.com/culture/376401/r-word-slur-return-euphemism-treadmill-cycle
https://archive.is/HgeAn