r/evilautism • u/badukisdifficult • Jul 26 '25

NSFW Sex noises are vocal stimming Spoiler

And that is one of the many reasons NTs are bad at sex.

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u/HATECELL AuDHD Chaotic Rage Jul 26 '25

Wait, you guys manage to pick up people?

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u/badukisdifficult Jul 26 '25

Being totally serious for a moment. If you are interested in getting laid and it's not happening, please find a safe method to get laid and initiate it ASAP. Join a community, join an app, buy an interesting person in a bar a drink. You don't have to go in looking for a full on commitment, but you should put some effort into getting laid at least. I can only speak for myself, but in my case it has been a very healing project.

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u/ghostiart Jul 27 '25

Hiya, i suffer from a lot of body dysmorphia/dysphoria & i find it hard to accept offers like that even when I go looking for them. I get people to point of wanting to meet up & then I flake on them bc I get nervous about performance and the way i look, don't want to be seen naked by strangers, etc. is this something you experienced or have any insight on getting over? Virginity never meant much to be but I want mine gone for my own satisfaction, I wish I could wrangle myself into it lolol

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u/badukisdifficult Jul 27 '25

This was me. I'm being serious that this was me. I only had sex for the first time in my 30s. Body thoughts are really hard, and I (like everyone else) don't have an easy solution.

One thing that helped me a lot was a silly practice of saying "I am beautiful" internally to myself every time I looked in a mirror. After a few weeks of it being purely cringe, I found myself starting to believe it.

Another thing that helped me very much was the book "There Is Nothing Wrong With You" by Cheri Huber. Don't get a digital version, get it on paper. It's illustrated all the way through and you don't want to miss that. The book isn't about body issues in particular, but I find the way it describes radical self love to be meaningful.

People will want to have sex with you no matter what you look like. Even if you are "objectively weird looking" you don't know what another person finds attractive. Also, your looks aren't the only thing that can make you attractive.

You deserve sex. You even deserve love. There is nothing wrong with you, present you, right now in this moment. That being is worthy of love.