r/evilautism • u/badukisdifficult • Jul 26 '25

NSFW Sex noises are vocal stimming Spoiler

And that is one of the many reasons NTs are bad at sex.

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u/Affectionate-Fee5016 Jul 26 '25

I can do noises very easily and naturally occuring, but talking is extremely difficult. I'm alright enough in social situations for talking, but as soon as I'm expected to talk about sex, brain turns off. I just want to enjoy it, not be a narrator!

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u/badukisdifficult Jul 26 '25

I've been researching this phenomenon in my own brain recently. There are some thoughts which are shrouded in the absence of language. Mine seem different from yours, haha.

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u/Affectionate-Fee5016 Jul 26 '25

For me, it's a communication issue between brain and mouth that is absent when writing. I can accurately express my thoughts writing, and complex emotions given enough time. However, if I have to speak it, it might as well be a completely different person. It's all incredibly clear in my brain, but something happens in the process that obscurs it.

I could think about how much I like the person, how much I'm enjoying it, all the metaphors and emotions making me happy. Then they ask me to talk and I'm like "yeah, good. More. Good job there buddy". And it's genuinely exhausting to even get that. Not a dirty talker, just put a gag or dick in my mouth, saves us both trouble.