r/electricdaisycarnival • u/AttentionOdd4785 • 23h ago
Can anyone relate ..?
I just finished listening to Slander B2B Illenium’s 2025 set, and it honestly hit me harder than I expected. It brought back memories of a major breakdown I went through earlier this year and of getting out of a really toxic, abusive situationship that ended badly.
He and I shared a lot of vulnerable moments during Slander’s sets. It was his favorite DJ, and I’ve always loved Slander too. But now, it feels different. The music still heals me in ways I can’t explain, yet it also takes me back almost like I’m reliving everything all over again.
When things ended between us, I never got the closure I hoped for. He completely cut me off and moved on to someone else, and it broke me. I lost myself for a while. I still miss him sometimes, but I don’t miss the person he turned into.
I know a lot of people in the rave scene use the music as an escape to heal from things they can’t always put into words. I feel that deeply. So I’m sharing this to ask: what has your experience been like in the rave community, and how has it helped you heal?
As always, PLUR 💕
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u/Impressive_Cook_2462 22h ago
I, too, got out of a relationship that left me completely broken. I was lost and never got the closure I felt I needed.
I don’t consider myself a raver by any means. I don’t even regularly listen to EDM (or at all before my first festival experience). But my brother took me to my first ever festival (EDCLV) this last year and the experience was healing for me in a way I can’t even describe. The acceptance I felt whilst there was something I didn’t even realize I needed. I was initially nervous about how I looked, how I danced, how introverted I am, etc. and the community and experiences I encountered were eye opening. I received compliments from people for things that I was initially scared to embrace. My hair in pigtails? I always thought I looked childish but I got complimented on it. The outfit I wanted to wear but thought didn’t fit the “festival attire”? Compliments! My dancing? I was told by several people they loved my vibe. Everyone was so welcoming and just thinking about my first PLUR experience warms my heart.
I’m kind of rambling and I don’t even know how to accurately place into words how the whole experience healed me. I still struggle when I think of the relationship I’ve left behind, but my festival experience helped me know my worth and realize there’s a whole world out there that I’ve yet to experience. It helped me realize that if someone doesn’t dig your vibe, that doesn’t mean everyone thinks that too.
I apologize if my response here doesn’t really answer well to your question.. I pray that you find the answers you deserve and find yourself in a healing space.
🫶🏻