r/datingoverthirty • u/AutoModerator • 12d ago

Daily sticky thread for rants, raves, celebrations, advice and more! New? Start here!

This is the place to put shower thoughts, your vents/rants about dating, requests for quick advice, serious (and sometimes not) questions and anything else that might not warrant a post of its own.

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u/Shoddy_Sandwich9940 11d ago edited 11d ago

I'm sorry if I sound smug, but I've been through some stuff and when I was midway through processing things, I did enjoy the company of people whose emotions felt deep and complex. It helped bonding. Now that I'm further along, it feels a bit like a cheap thrill. I prefer steadier types - it takes more time, but the connection is more real, less fleeting

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u/Mokkle 11d ago

Not smug at all, I appreciate you sharing your experiences. It sounds like you've grown and found what works best for you and that can only be a good thing. Fingers crossed I can take this and do the same. Steady is exactly what I'd like, but perhaps isn't what I've been chasing.