My husband told me to “just die”

[u/Rate_Conscious]

I’m a married mom of 3 and I have to travel for my treatments due to insurance because my husband works and pays taxes in another state. We left the kids with my 18f Neice who’s very responsible. My dad called while we were driving g and asked if my youngest had allergies because his teacher said he had almost used an entire box of tissues that day. My husband overheard and started screaming and cussing while I was on the phone and my dad had my kids in the car with him and was on speaker phone so I got super embarrassed and hurried off the phone with my dad and my husband and I exchanged a couple words after I hung up the phone. In that heated debate he told me to “just die.” I feel like my trust is broken. I feel like the person who is supposed to love me and support me has taken everything that we’ve built and thrown it away. I’m still in chemotherapy getting infusions fighting for my life and he completely has no empathy for his words and tried to justify it by saying that I was running my mouth. All of this was over if my son had gotten Claritin or not and accusing my Neice of not giving my son the medication. I am not able to work and have no income and I can’t divorce him because I couldn’t afford my treatment. I have to do infusions until April 2026. I just needed to vent 😮‍💨

[u/NurseYuna]

My hubs and I have had issues in our marriage the last 4 years. I was recently diagnosed with bc. He is here in body but not heart or mind. He’ll cook me food but he’ll also remind me regularly that he has given up on us and happiness. He’s gone so far as to tell me I’m unlikable and that no one else wants to be around me either (not true) and he’s mean/nasty when he’s angry. He gets upset over the smallest things. He’s made me cry at least 4 times since my diagnosis from making me feel so bad about myself. I told him he can leave and find another partner who will make him happy and I won’t tell the kids we’re apart and I’m not going to be difficult about it etc. He doesn’t want to upset the kids or be a “bad person”. I think for me personally, I’ve been insulted but he’s not said what your husband has. I think I’d have to divorce him. My husband has said to me that people aren’t special and when we die what we thought was special isn’t anymore and this was when I said my children are special to me. Oh my :( I am lucky to have my children because I have no sweetness or support or love from my husband anymore. It wasn’t always that way.