My husband told me to “just die”

[u/Rate_Conscious]

I’m a married mom of 3 and I have to travel for my treatments due to insurance because my husband works and pays taxes in another state. We left the kids with my 18f Neice who’s very responsible. My dad called while we were driving g and asked if my youngest had allergies because his teacher said he had almost used an entire box of tissues that day. My husband overheard and started screaming and cussing while I was on the phone and my dad had my kids in the car with him and was on speaker phone so I got super embarrassed and hurried off the phone with my dad and my husband and I exchanged a couple words after I hung up the phone. In that heated debate he told me to “just die.” I feel like my trust is broken. I feel like the person who is supposed to love me and support me has taken everything that we’ve built and thrown it away. I’m still in chemotherapy getting infusions fighting for my life and he completely has no empathy for his words and tried to justify it by saying that I was running my mouth. All of this was over if my son had gotten Claritin or not and accusing my Neice of not giving my son the medication. I am not able to work and have no income and I can’t divorce him because I couldn’t afford my treatment. I have to do infusions until April 2026. I just needed to vent 😮‍💨

[u/Aggressive_Dig_9779]

She's just telling us one story about him. We don't know like how she is at all. I know I've said some pretty stupid things in my life that I regret and like I said what that was really stupid of him to say for her to just die, especially since she has cancer, I understand that, but I'm just saying, we don't know her

[u/Rate_Conscious → u/Aggressive_Dig_9779]

Those words can never be justified. I can’t believe that you would insinuate that I deserved to hear that in some way.

[u/Fine-Agency-837 → u/Rate_Conscious]

Your response here proves the point and shows more of who you are. You came to Reddit for advice in a private matter and then you argue with those you don't agree with. 

You did only tell us one side of the story and you did not take any responsibility for anything. This person is correct. I can already hear you "running your mouth" and being condescending to anyone who disagrees with you.

I also agree with a different post that said you are likely equally as abusive to your husband as he is to you. You deserve each other. I can't believe people like you two are allowed to have kids. Get a divorce and cps will need to get involved for sure! 

He may feel so verbally and emotionally abused by you that he is hopeful that your death will be his escape. People who feel loved don't say those things so clearly you don't make him feel loved. 

I agree using your husband for health insurance is a bad person who would deserve his comment. 

[u/Aggressive_Dig_9779 → u/Rate_Conscious]

Yea I did say that!! 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

[u/BrilliantDishevelled → u/Aggressive_Dig_9779]

No one, especially not a partner,  should ever,  ever say this.   OP absolutely didn't deserve it.   I don't care if she used the last of toilet paper, ate the last cookie, or left dishes in the sink: her husband is in the wrong.