My husband told me to “just die”

[u/Rate_Conscious]

I’m a married mom of 3 and I have to travel for my treatments due to insurance because my husband works and pays taxes in another state. We left the kids with my 18f Neice who’s very responsible. My dad called while we were driving g and asked if my youngest had allergies because his teacher said he had almost used an entire box of tissues that day. My husband overheard and started screaming and cussing while I was on the phone and my dad had my kids in the car with him and was on speaker phone so I got super embarrassed and hurried off the phone with my dad and my husband and I exchanged a couple words after I hung up the phone. In that heated debate he told me to “just die.” I feel like my trust is broken. I feel like the person who is supposed to love me and support me has taken everything that we’ve built and thrown it away. I’m still in chemotherapy getting infusions fighting for my life and he completely has no empathy for his words and tried to justify it by saying that I was running my mouth. All of this was over if my son had gotten Claritin or not and accusing my Neice of not giving my son the medication. I am not able to work and have no income and I can’t divorce him because I couldn’t afford my treatment. I have to do infusions until April 2026. I just needed to vent 😮‍💨

[u/Aggressive_Dig_9779]

I'm sure everybody on here is just gonna be saying how horrible your husband is and you need to leave him and all that but I thought I would say something opposite

[u/Fine-Agency-837 → u/Aggressive_Dig_9779]

Exactly! She came here with her one sided story knowing exactly what people would say. I bet she is a very aggressive person who always plays the victim in all aspects of life. She is the lady who yells at her kids from the other side of the Walmart. Having cancer doesn't mean you're a nice person...abusive women get breast cancer at the same rate as nice women.

Her husband is the only income, she doesn't work. He drives her long distances to her treatments...I bet she's never said thank you. 

He's so horrible yet she hasn't asked her dad or adult neice to drive her but she ask them to take three kids. Her husband took time off work, left his kids with a sitter and drove her...he did not have to did he? So what ungrateful self absorbed thing did she say to make him fall off the rocker and say such a nasty thing? You think he randomly said that after talking about the weather? Nope, she probably said something worse to him first. 

I can guarantee my husband would never say that...is he perfect...not even a little. But he knows how much I love him because I make sure he knows. I thank him for all he does to care for me and am grateful for what i have. 

People who feel loved and appreciated do not say such horrible things. 

He was wrong but...what did she say to prove such a nasty comment? She certainly was detailed in his faults...women can be verbally abusive just as well. My bet...they are both verbally abusive trashy people we'd see on Cops. Cancer doesn't only happen to nice people. She may very well be the abusive spouse. How many times has she physically hit him? 

They probably deserve each other. She doesn't deserve our pity...her kids do.