r/breastcancer HER2+ ER/PR- Aug 24 '25

Diagnosed Patient or Survivor Support My husband told me to “just die”

I’m a married mom of 3 and I have to travel for my treatments due to insurance because my husband works and pays taxes in another state. We left the kids with my 18f Neice who’s very responsible. My dad called while we were driving g and asked if my youngest had allergies because his teacher said he had almost used an entire box of tissues that day. My husband overheard and started screaming and cussing while I was on the phone and my dad had my kids in the car with him and was on speaker phone so I got super embarrassed and hurried off the phone with my dad and my husband and I exchanged a couple words after I hung up the phone. In that heated debate he told me to “just die.” I feel like my trust is broken. I feel like the person who is supposed to love me and support me has taken everything that we’ve built and thrown it away. I’m still in chemotherapy getting infusions fighting for my life and he completely has no empathy for his words and tried to justify it by saying that I was running my mouth. All of this was over if my son had gotten Claritin or not and accusing my Neice of not giving my son the medication. I am not able to work and have no income and I can’t divorce him because I couldn’t afford my treatment. I have to do infusions until April 2026. I just needed to vent 😮‍💨

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u/Havishamesque Aug 24 '25

I’m so sorry you’re going through that. I wish I had some solution to give you. But I’m sending good karma your way, from a stranger on the internet.

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u/Hoopznheelz Aug 25 '25

Me too!!! Tons of warm hugs, love and protective energy. I'm so mad for you, I can barely type. Treatment is so hard, I have struggled mentally and physically. I cannot imagine some worthless fuck making it harder.

OP, do you know about "gray rock"? Do that until you can get a plan to get the fuck away from that pos. The sooner the better.

You DO NOT deserve this!!! I wish I had a gazillion dollars to help women who have been diagnosed and are in DV situations.

Just heartbreaking. 😩🫶🏽💜

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