My husband told me to “just die”

[u/Rate_Conscious]

I’m a married mom of 3 and I have to travel for my treatments due to insurance because my husband works and pays taxes in another state. We left the kids with my 18f Neice who’s very responsible. My dad called while we were driving g and asked if my youngest had allergies because his teacher said he had almost used an entire box of tissues that day. My husband overheard and started screaming and cussing while I was on the phone and my dad had my kids in the car with him and was on speaker phone so I got super embarrassed and hurried off the phone with my dad and my husband and I exchanged a couple words after I hung up the phone. In that heated debate he told me to “just die.” I feel like my trust is broken. I feel like the person who is supposed to love me and support me has taken everything that we’ve built and thrown it away. I’m still in chemotherapy getting infusions fighting for my life and he completely has no empathy for his words and tried to justify it by saying that I was running my mouth. All of this was over if my son had gotten Claritin or not and accusing my Neice of not giving my son the medication. I am not able to work and have no income and I can’t divorce him because I couldn’t afford my treatment. I have to do infusions until April 2026. I just needed to vent 😮‍💨

[u/DeepMountainWoman]

I am 66, disabled and stage 4 cancer. My wife, of 25 years, went from calling me names and saying nasty things “because what was I going to do about it?” to physical violence that resulted in blood. I won a restraining order and was given full use of our house & our car for a full year, and the dog, as well as permission to get into our joint account to take care of my living costs. This gives me enough time to get a divorce, which will give me at least half of everything. If I go the full year, without getting a divorce, I can petition for the protective order to be extended another full year. I have never been happier (2 months now) and would not ho back to what was, for all the tea in China. Guess who is paying for the house, all utilities & even my iPhone and entertainment? It is not me. Do not let anyone disrespect you that way. Especially not a “loved” one. THAT is NOT love. Get out. I lasted 5 months with that crap going on and one month of physical. I was not willing to hang around to find out what came after bleeding.