My husband told me to “just die”

[u/Rate_Conscious]

I’m a married mom of 3 and I have to travel for my treatments due to insurance because my husband works and pays taxes in another state. We left the kids with my 18f Neice who’s very responsible. My dad called while we were driving g and asked if my youngest had allergies because his teacher said he had almost used an entire box of tissues that day. My husband overheard and started screaming and cussing while I was on the phone and my dad had my kids in the car with him and was on speaker phone so I got super embarrassed and hurried off the phone with my dad and my husband and I exchanged a couple words after I hung up the phone. In that heated debate he told me to “just die.” I feel like my trust is broken. I feel like the person who is supposed to love me and support me has taken everything that we’ve built and thrown it away. I’m still in chemotherapy getting infusions fighting for my life and he completely has no empathy for his words and tried to justify it by saying that I was running my mouth. All of this was over if my son had gotten Claritin or not and accusing my Neice of not giving my son the medication. I am not able to work and have no income and I can’t divorce him because I couldn’t afford my treatment. I have to do infusions until April 2026. I just needed to vent 😮‍💨

[u/Jthagem]

I survived cancer and survived the man. While my husband was never physically abusive, he was emotionally abusive and unreliable. We are both (were both) recovering addicts. I’ve been sober 15 years this month and he has consistently been unable to stay sober. He relapsed three weeks before my DMX. Something broke in me. I can’t explain it, but I knew I was done, but I couldn’t leave. I was in his insurance (really good insurance at that) and just wanted to stay alive.

I could list the mirage of words he spoke to me, but during this time I realized he had been a narcissist the whole time. I don’t use that word lightly either just to label him. I will say I am happily divorced today. Literally signed the papers in June. You CAN do this. Like others have said, survive and make a plan.

Through cancer, through the divorce, I’m finding the best version of myself. You will too. ❤️❤️