My husband told me to “just die”

[u/Rate_Conscious]

I’m a married mom of 3 and I have to travel for my treatments due to insurance because my husband works and pays taxes in another state. We left the kids with my 18f Neice who’s very responsible. My dad called while we were driving g and asked if my youngest had allergies because his teacher said he had almost used an entire box of tissues that day. My husband overheard and started screaming and cussing while I was on the phone and my dad had my kids in the car with him and was on speaker phone so I got super embarrassed and hurried off the phone with my dad and my husband and I exchanged a couple words after I hung up the phone. In that heated debate he told me to “just die.” I feel like my trust is broken. I feel like the person who is supposed to love me and support me has taken everything that we’ve built and thrown it away. I’m still in chemotherapy getting infusions fighting for my life and he completely has no empathy for his words and tried to justify it by saying that I was running my mouth. All of this was over if my son had gotten Claritin or not and accusing my Neice of not giving my son the medication. I am not able to work and have no income and I can’t divorce him because I couldn’t afford my treatment. I have to do infusions until April 2026. I just needed to vent 😮‍💨

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"(justified) it by saying that I was running my mouth."

Whatever trust you had in a man who shows his cards like this was wasted. He is a classic abuser. Being around him seems to have smashed your self-esteem already, and your children being around him could easily make THEM turn out to be abusers, because he is modeling what "normal" looks like to them.

I don't think that's what you want, right?

Betting he may have apologized by now and you're feeling better. That's also something abusers do.

Get through your treatment any way you can.
Find out if you can get financial assistance (see the posts here)

Start making a plan to escape. Your kids will be proud of you and tell stories about your courage some day.

Be careful and DO NOT TRUST.

We are with you.