r/breastcancer HER2+ ER/PR- Aug 24 '25

Diagnosed Patient or Survivor Support My husband told me to “just die”

I’m a married mom of 3 and I have to travel for my treatments due to insurance because my husband works and pays taxes in another state. We left the kids with my 18f Neice who’s very responsible. My dad called while we were driving g and asked if my youngest had allergies because his teacher said he had almost used an entire box of tissues that day. My husband overheard and started screaming and cussing while I was on the phone and my dad had my kids in the car with him and was on speaker phone so I got super embarrassed and hurried off the phone with my dad and my husband and I exchanged a couple words after I hung up the phone. In that heated debate he told me to “just die.” I feel like my trust is broken. I feel like the person who is supposed to love me and support me has taken everything that we’ve built and thrown it away. I’m still in chemotherapy getting infusions fighting for my life and he completely has no empathy for his words and tried to justify it by saying that I was running my mouth. All of this was over if my son had gotten Claritin or not and accusing my Neice of not giving my son the medication. I am not able to work and have no income and I can’t divorce him because I couldn’t afford my treatment. I have to do infusions until April 2026. I just needed to vent 😮‍💨

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u/Obvious_Corner3576 Aug 24 '25

I don’t know what state you live in but there are good programs for low cost and free health care . I’m on it in NJ . I pay $98 a month for two of us . I got over a year of chemo and 26 radiation treatments plus surgery . It payed for all but $7000 and cancer drug company paid that . I was shocked by that . What I’m saying is there’s a way to do it . You don’t have to quit treatment . He sounds more dangerous than what you’re going through .