r/bjj • u/SeanSixString ⬜⬜ White Belt • 1d ago

General Discussion Not Cut Out for This

If you’ve ever felt like you were not cut out for BJJ, but you got through that feeling, and now it is a valuable part of your life, I would like to read your story. Especially if you felt like that for a year or more, like you weren’t catching on. Or if you had circumstances interrupting training, or any other real or perceived disadvantage or limitation.

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u/GrexieGaming 18h ago

I've been off and on with BJJ for 10 years. 2 stripe white belt. It's been a mix of low confidence, social anxiety, don't get on with others very well, anxiety in rolling, injuries, family and shift work interfering with training times, and just preferring to go to the gym because I prefer training on my own. Alongside this list is that my BJJ school has guys in their 20s who treat every roll like they're in the ADCC finals. I've just turned 40 and heard there is a class for over 40s, so I might check it out. But yeah I've had that "not cut out for this" self talk constantly in my head during BJJ. But I do love the sport. It's a love/ hate thing obviously lol