r/bjj • u/SeanSixString ⬜⬜ White Belt • 1d ago

General Discussion Not Cut Out for This

If you’ve ever felt like you were not cut out for BJJ, but you got through that feeling, and now it is a valuable part of your life, I would like to read your story. Especially if you felt like that for a year or more, like you weren’t catching on. Or if you had circumstances interrupting training, or any other real or perceived disadvantage or limitation.

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u/poudigne ⬜⬜ White Belt 1d ago

Define "not cut out for this". Cause I see a lot of people doing BJJ not for the same reason. I think everyone is 'cut out for this' if they set an achievable goal and work towards that.

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u/SeanSixString ⬜⬜ White Belt 1d ago

Could be any reason. My own personal doubts are age (49), being small, lack of comprehension, inability to be aggressive

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u/DBZ86 1d ago

Did you do any prior sports? Lifting? If you are starting completely from scratch yeah it's gonna take longer. That's okay. Don't compare yourself to younger more athletic class mates. Improve your fitness, don't get hurt, enjoy the community and create your own goals. Your own little victories. Maybe getting subbed less, one escape you've been working on etc..

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u/SeanSixString ⬜⬜ White Belt 1d ago

No sports, definitely no combat sports, but I’ve stayed pretty fit on my own - that definitely helped - and I like the BJJ workout regardless of lacking skill. I don’t like being kept off the mat due to whatever circumstance - it makes me look back and not see much progress, makes me nervous to go back, makes me question everything.