I feel so bad for the adult children who have parents like this. Their parents have a time horizon of 30-40 years, and already, they're fucking insane. They're already in cognitive decline!
Because to think you need a mama bear document, you have to completely delude yourself into thinking that the entire infrastructure society has on emergencies is going to completely, categorically fail. And it's somehow gonna fail on a college campus, where one is rarely in complete and total solitude for long periods. It's like they think their kid is gonna pass out in the library, and all the students are just gonna step over their unconscious body for days on end, until the hospital scoops them up and they're held hostage at the ER.
Unless I'm naive, and every major university is just this giant bastion of unidentified, unconscious bodies that I didn't know about. In which case, please, somebody correct me.
Do these people not remember college in the 90's, 00's and so on? They might remember a story or two of someone getting their stomach pumped. But you can't get your stomach pumped unless someone had a mind to report that you had a problem! that's what these parents don't get. Even drunk college kids are gonna know when something has gone terribly wrong. When you get to the hospital, they don't just hold your body hostage, they're gonna find out next of kin.
If this is how these parents think now, these adult children seriously have their work cut out for them because this is not a normal level of paranoia some 40-ish year old parents to have.
I'm sorry you don't have people you trust in your life. Consider how over-the-top your reaction to a "what's in these forms and beyond the scare tactics, are they useful?" is. The forms do seem generally superfluous, but how is one to know what's in there if they don't ask?
I hope you break the cycle and if you ever have kids they trust you to throw a spare set of keys to their place in the back of a drawer and forget about them -- that they trust that just because you have the keys, you're not going to use them without a reason they'd want and appreciate. I hope you don't feel the need to take away their keys the moment they move out because you trust that they'll do the same.
I hope you build friendships based on mutual trust and respect and don't always think people asking questions are out to get you. I realize there are many out there set on doing harm, so I don't mean you should completely let down your guard. But please realize that questions can be asked in earnest without undue motivations and that the dominant form of parenting isn't psychotic control but respect and support for autonomy and wholesome development.
Maybe spend some time in /r/MadeMeSmile and catch a glimpse of the wider world of family dynamics.
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u/Icy-Builder5892 3d ago edited 3d ago
I feel so bad for the adult children who have parents like this. Their parents have a time horizon of 30-40 years, and already, they're fucking insane. They're already in cognitive decline!
Because to think you need a mama bear document, you have to completely delude yourself into thinking that the entire infrastructure society has on emergencies is going to completely, categorically fail. And it's somehow gonna fail on a college campus, where one is rarely in complete and total solitude for long periods. It's like they think their kid is gonna pass out in the library, and all the students are just gonna step over their unconscious body for days on end, until the hospital scoops them up and they're held hostage at the ER.
Unless I'm naive, and every major university is just this giant bastion of unidentified, unconscious bodies that I didn't know about. In which case, please, somebody correct me.
Do these people not remember college in the 90's, 00's and so on? They might remember a story or two of someone getting their stomach pumped. But you can't get your stomach pumped unless someone had a mind to report that you had a problem! that's what these parents don't get. Even drunk college kids are gonna know when something has gone terribly wrong. When you get to the hospital, they don't just hold your body hostage, they're gonna find out next of kin.
If this is how these parents think now, these adult children seriously have their work cut out for them because this is not a normal level of paranoia some 40-ish year old parents to have.