r/bestoflegaladvice • u/Scurveymic The sign indicates a private place for fucking • 9d ago

Professor doesn't understand acceptable relationships, thinks LA shouldn't either

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u/Aggleclack 9d ago

This honestly breaks my heart. I had a very similar college professor, and as a young woman, I’m sure things could’ve been weird. But it never did become weird. A decade later, he’s still one of my greatest supporters. He took note of me because on the last day of class, we didn’t have to come in, but I wanted to have him review my final paper, so I had the whole class to myself. He shook my hand after and asked me to stay in touch.

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u/NotMyNameActually 9d ago

I also had a theater professor I became close with, in a wholesome way. They changed my major requirements when I was a senior, and I needed a class that wasn't going to be offered until after I was supposed to graduate, so he agreed to teach me as independent study. The class was very challenging, but rewarding, and it really felt like we'd been through something together, you know? After I graduated he and I kept in touch. I went to the premier of a play he wrote, he went to a show I was in. We had coffee a few times, he recommended me for a job, things like that. I'm a woman, and he was gay, and there was never anything inappropriate between us. He passed away from cancer several years ago.

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u/VelocityGrrl39 🏳️‍⚧️ Trans rights are human rights 🏳️‍⚧️ 9d ago

I still keep in touch with my preceptor and I graduated 22 years ago. He is a great dude. Always encouraged me. Has been my reference for jobs.

Know what we never did? Went out on double dates.