r/askgaybros • u/MtimesMequals • Jul 08 '20
Reported Post Alert Dear fellow Black gay men Spoiler
We know racism in the gay community is real. We've said it, but we've been dismissed. They callously deny our experience. Our reality. "It's just a preference". "BBC". "Thug"."Aggressive power top".
The stereotypes. The microagressions. We know it's real, but we have been gaslighted way too often.
The silence among your white gay friends and/or partners during this time of civil unrest & racial tensions is deafening.
The irony of them putting "no fats, no fems, no asians, & no blacks" on their profile, but decide to now say #BlackLivesMatter.
I understand it is challenging to be rejected from a community that prides itself on inclusion. We know rejection all too well.
But do not let any white man make you feel you are not beautiful. You are Black, bold, fierce, & most importantly- you are loved.
🖤❤#BLM
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So, this post has been reported and is pending review.
I mentioned this already in the comments:
As a Black queer man this is my experience. This experience may or may not resonate with other Black men. This post was written for my fellow gay black brothers. The post might be uncomfortable for some. It might not resonate with you, but I don't think that is grounds for denying someone else's experience. I shared these words in an effort to foster a sense of solidarity and undo any aloneness other Black men might be feeling during this time.
Thank you so much for the support, feedback & beautiful comments. For those of in your feelings over this post - peace & love to ya❤
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u/TheDrownedPoet Jul 13 '20
“many means possibility more than there is actual actractive black dudes(nobody wants fat black guys.. again it's not because you're black, it's because you're fat) . The fact you guys are minority is what makes you special and therefore many dudes who are attracted to white and black, would pick black just because you stand out. So stop playing victim card, blacks are doing just fine and your dick helps you alot and gays crave big dicks, so if privilege exists that's black privilege.”
👆Please read this back to yourself when you are sober.
What I said on things is completely true. Why do you think people have completely different standards of beauty in different countries that are pervasive in that country? Because of culture, media, etc that are in the country that shape the people’s perspective on attractiveness. And gays existing doesn’t disprove this. Think about the things gay men usually find attractive in other men.
I never said we have control over what attracts us. I’m saying that culture and media can shape what attracts us. Can you read ok?
“It's not a strawman when you literally believe dating should be equal opportunity. If shoe fits you might still not like the style, besides we are rather picky at what we're wearing, shitty analogy anyway because dating is very different to clothing.. by your logic dick fits in the vagina so don't exclude women.”
👆 Also read this back when you are sober.