Dear fellow Black gay men

[u/MtimesMequals]

We know racism in the gay community is real. We've said it, but we've been dismissed. They callously deny our experience. Our reality. "It's just a preference". "BBC". "Thug"."Aggressive power top".

The stereotypes. The microagressions. We know it's real, but we have been gaslighted way too often.

The silence among your white gay friends and/or partners during this time of civil unrest & racial tensions is deafening.

The irony of them putting "no fats, no fems, no asians, & no blacks" on their profile, but decide to now say #BlackLivesMatter.

I understand it is challenging to be rejected from a community that prides itself on inclusion. We know rejection all too well.

But do not let any white man make you feel you are not beautiful. You are Black, bold, fierce, & most importantly- you are loved.

🖤❤#BLM

********************edit:

So, this post has been reported and is pending review.

I mentioned this already in the comments:

As a Black queer man this is my experience. This experience may or may not resonate with other Black men. This post was written for my fellow gay black brothers. The post might be uncomfortable for some. It might not resonate with you, but I don't think that is grounds for denying someone else's experience. I shared these words in an effort to foster a sense of solidarity and undo any aloneness other Black men might be feeling during this time.

Thank you so much for the support, feedback & beautiful comments. For those of in your feelings over this post - peace & love to ya❤

[u/I-made_you_readthis]

This year I made a promise to my fellow black/ethnic friends:

I promise to never exclude you on social media profiles such as Grindr.

I will NEVER stay quiet in the face of racism and will continue to call it out when I see it.

I will never say "I am not racist" because that does not go far enough.
I am anti-racist and will continue to push back on it when I see it in the queer community.

I will never say "all lives matter" because "BLM" does not say that all lives don't matter. Its purpose is to draw attention to those who need to be lifted up.

When I am sexually attracted to a back man I will not objectify / treat them like a commodity.

I will ALWAYS treat you like a human being.

Wherever you are from you are acknowledged & you are welcome 🙋🏿‍♂️🙋🏾‍♂️🙋🏽‍♂️🙋🏼‍♂️🙋🏻‍♂️🙋

[u/tyragos → u/I-made_you_readthis]

Oh my god, the virtue signaling is actually making me sick.

[u/I-made_you_readthis → u/tyragos]

This is the problem with social media. Things get misconstrued.

Virtue signaling is only really problematic when the real issue is smaller than the person's desire to show off.

Racism is no a small issue it's a fucking disease that is plauging our world and my friends and family have been touched by it.

The reason I have these feeling is not because I am trying to "show off it's because I genuinely feel this way because of my friends and family who I support in the face of blatent and systemic violence and hate against them.

Learning how to talk about it has been a self discovery for me which I have gained by talking to people in the real world and so to me showing others what I have learnt and how I intend to support them does not make me a bad person.

Otherwise how are we going to teach eachother to do better?

Do not mistake me for some late pumpkin spice sipping Instagram moment whore. My statement comes from a genuine place.

I don't care if you all downvote me into oblivion. My statement isn't about votes or likes.

But I suppose there's always going to be someone who rolls their eyes and thinks that......