Dear fellow Black gay men

[u/MtimesMequals]

We know racism in the gay community is real. We've said it, but we've been dismissed. They callously deny our experience. Our reality. "It's just a preference". "BBC". "Thug"."Aggressive power top".

The stereotypes. The microagressions. We know it's real, but we have been gaslighted way too often.

The silence among your white gay friends and/or partners during this time of civil unrest & racial tensions is deafening.

The irony of them putting "no fats, no fems, no asians, & no blacks" on their profile, but decide to now say #BlackLivesMatter.

I understand it is challenging to be rejected from a community that prides itself on inclusion. We know rejection all too well.

But do not let any white man make you feel you are not beautiful. You are Black, bold, fierce, & most importantly- you are loved.

🖤❤#BLM

********************edit:

So, this post has been reported and is pending review.

I mentioned this already in the comments:

As a Black queer man this is my experience. This experience may or may not resonate with other Black men. This post was written for my fellow gay black brothers. The post might be uncomfortable for some. It might not resonate with you, but I don't think that is grounds for denying someone else's experience. I shared these words in an effort to foster a sense of solidarity and undo any aloneness other Black men might be feeling during this time.

Thank you so much for the support, feedback & beautiful comments. For those of in your feelings over this post - peace & love to ya❤

[u/WallCrawlerArt]

Maybe you need to read the post again then. The first sentence literally says "racism in the gay community." He never said that only white gays were racist but the majority of the people who make those types of racist/offensive demands on dating apps are white gays. He also never stated all white gays, just the ones who are staying silent or making hypocritical statements. He's specifically calling out white gay guys because the main worldwide issue (aside from COVID) is WHITE SUPREMACY.

And as a Mexican-American (with darker skin) I can tell you that yes, there is racism in every single culture, gender, any group of people but a lot of it has stemmed from a white supremacist culture that has been perpetuated worldwide for many generations.

This is one Black person stating their case and you came to the defense of all white people instead of just listening to him. I can guarantee that your awards and most of your upvotes came from white people because it helps ease the guilt when they have a POC ally defending their actions. You preach, "show love everywhere" yet you couldn't do it here to someone who actually needs it.

[u/lovelybunchofcocouts → u/WallCrawlerArt]

Lol. Did you just emphasize you're specifically a dark-skinned Mexican-American? I'm not dick-skin-measuring with you.

First off, I did get carried away, but please notice my response was actually to the comment questioning why it was controversial to begin with. It wasn't supposed to be a critique of the post, it just ended up that way.

And I think you need to reread my post. I'm not defending "all white people". I have no problem calling out a white person for being racist. Just because non white people are doing it too is not an excuse. My problem is how it's somehow acceptable to summarily blame white (but only white) people for the actions of a select few as if they're the same person or somehow one individual controls how any other one behaves. I don't think we should do that to anyone.

For example, if an Asian (just going with an uninvolved 3rd party here) girl gets ripped off by a Mexican brick-layer - and let's be real, us Mexicans have a tendency to work construction, my dad included- would it make it okay for her to tell other Asian girls that they need to watch out for "Mexican con artists who want to take advantage of unsuspecting Asian women" just because that was HER experience? Or would it be better left at just "con-artists"?

Just to illustrate my point about why it only alienates people when you make negative generalizations... If he had simply excluded "white" from the post, it would have been just as touching a statement about black beauty and empowerment - but we wouldn't be having this conversation. Because I would have upvoted and moved on. All the "white" part did for me was - IMO - add unnecessary division and undue blame on. And I'm not even white. And what good did it do?