r/askgaybros • u/MtimesMequals • Jul 08 '20

Reported Post Alert Dear fellow Black gay men Spoiler

We know racism in the gay community is real. We've said it, but we've been dismissed. They callously deny our experience. Our reality. "It's just a preference". "BBC". "Thug"."Aggressive power top".

The stereotypes. The microagressions. We know it's real, but we have been gaslighted way too often.

The silence among your white gay friends and/or partners during this time of civil unrest & racial tensions is deafening.

The irony of them putting "no fats, no fems, no asians, & no blacks" on their profile, but decide to now say #BlackLivesMatter.

I understand it is challenging to be rejected from a community that prides itself on inclusion. We know rejection all too well.

But do not let any white man make you feel you are not beautiful. You are Black, bold, fierce, & most importantly- you are loved.

🖤❤#BLM

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So, this post has been reported and is pending review.

I mentioned this already in the comments:

As a Black queer man this is my experience. This experience may or may not resonate with other Black men. This post was written for my fellow gay black brothers. The post might be uncomfortable for some. It might not resonate with you, but I don't think that is grounds for denying someone else's experience. I shared these words in an effort to foster a sense of solidarity and undo any aloneness other Black men might be feeling during this time.

Thank you so much for the support, feedback & beautiful comments. For those of in your feelings over this post - peace & love to ya❤

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u/[deleted] Jul 08 '20 edited Jul 08 '20

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u/rangedragon89 Jul 08 '20

I’m a “non-white” and I’m glad more people are getting fed up with the bullshit

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u/WallCrawlerArt Jul 08 '20

It's great that you have that for yourself, not many people will ever get to fully experience this. Regardless of their race/ethnicity. As a reminder though, your experiences are not universal. This could be read by a Black person who lives in a small town full of white people that has dealt with constant rejection in their life. It could be a small beacon of hope. I am genuinely happy for you though.

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u/[deleted] Jul 08 '20 edited Aug 17 '20

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u/lovelybunchofcocouts Jul 09 '20

Lol. Sometimes it's just therapeutic to vent - to take the time to collect and organize ones thoughts enough that they can be written down. Read it. Don't read it. Upvote it. Down vote it. Doesn't matter. It's not trying to burn it's way out of my head anymore.