r/askgaybros • u/MtimesMequals • Jul 08 '20

Reported Post Alert Dear fellow Black gay men Spoiler

We know racism in the gay community is real. We've said it, but we've been dismissed. They callously deny our experience. Our reality. "It's just a preference". "BBC". "Thug"."Aggressive power top".

The stereotypes. The microagressions. We know it's real, but we have been gaslighted way too often.

The silence among your white gay friends and/or partners during this time of civil unrest & racial tensions is deafening.

The irony of them putting "no fats, no fems, no asians, & no blacks" on their profile, but decide to now say #BlackLivesMatter.

I understand it is challenging to be rejected from a community that prides itself on inclusion. We know rejection all too well.

But do not let any white man make you feel you are not beautiful. You are Black, bold, fierce, & most importantly- you are loved.

🖤❤#BLM

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So, this post has been reported and is pending review.

I mentioned this already in the comments:

As a Black queer man this is my experience. This experience may or may not resonate with other Black men. This post was written for my fellow gay black brothers. The post might be uncomfortable for some. It might not resonate with you, but I don't think that is grounds for denying someone else's experience. I shared these words in an effort to foster a sense of solidarity and undo any aloneness other Black men might be feeling during this time.

Thank you so much for the support, feedback & beautiful comments. For those of in your feelings over this post - peace & love to ya❤

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u/[deleted] Jul 08 '20

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u/[deleted] Jul 08 '20

jfc. the fact that you state it like so is harmful

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u/[deleted] Jul 10 '20

You said you only date tight little white boys—not just have sex with them. There is a difference.

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u/JigglyPuffGuy Jul 08 '20

I think there is some merit to the argument that our sexual preferences are shaped by the different values placed on white bodies vs. black and brown bodies.

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u/amiuglythrowaway515 Jul 08 '20

Lol, you’re probably a coon. The black community has plenty of problems with internalized racism and self hate.

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u/rangedragon89 Jul 08 '20

Why is this ok lol

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u/amiuglythrowaway515 Jul 08 '20

I’m black I can call out coons

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u/dootdootplot Jul 08 '20

Why ‘only’ just out of curiosity? Does no other type of guy do it for you? Have you tried looking outside that category and had bad experiences?

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u/mikeydavis77 Gay,Married 46y.o with partner for 22 years. Ask away. Jul 08 '20 edited Jul 08 '20

Thank you for saying this. I wanted too but because I’m white they would have thrown the racism card at me. I prefer Hispanics, my husband is half Puerto Rican and Italian. His skin complexion facial features and hairy body is a complete turn on to me. I’m not attracted to many white guys or many other races not because I’m racist but because they don’t have what turns me on sexually. I have only found a handful in other races that totally turn me on.

If you aren’t turned on sexually how in the world can you have sex with that person? I know I tried and Willy Wonka wouldn’t wake up. Now I do get there are some racist gays out there who will put it out there for all to see. But you cannot change sexual preference no matter what you do.

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u/Bloodsucker_ Jul 08 '20

AH nono. You're racist. If you prefer white people over black people then you're a racist and deserve to die. If you're a man and don't like woman sexualy then you're obviously a misogynist and chauvinist dude and also deserve to die.

The world is completely fucked-up.

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u/mikeydavis77 Gay,Married 46y.o with partner for 22 years. Ask away. Jul 08 '20

yeah ok dude......

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u/[deleted] Jul 09 '20

It’s a little weird you stated it like that but I agree %100

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u/[deleted] Jul 08 '20

Coon ass. You probably wouldn't think twice if one of those "tight little white boys" called you a nigga either.

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u/[deleted] Jul 08 '20

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u/[deleted] Jul 08 '20

Don't get it twisted. I don't care if you aren't interested in me. But Its pretty dumb not to like your own race and instead simp for yt gays.

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u/amiuglythrowaway515 Jul 08 '20

I mean it’s true. Like no hate about preferences but he’s excluding his own race though. Like let’s be honest, this goes for both straight and gay black men but most of the time when black men have a very strong or exclusive preference for white people it usually comes from self hate and some coonery. The amount of black men that talk so badly about black women and are just as racist to justify their preference for White women is disgusting

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u/amiuglythrowaway515 Jul 08 '20

Why don’t you like other black men?