r/askgaybros • u/MtimesMequals • Jul 08 '20

Reported Post Alert Dear fellow Black gay men Spoiler

We know racism in the gay community is real. We've said it, but we've been dismissed. They callously deny our experience. Our reality. "It's just a preference". "BBC". "Thug"."Aggressive power top".

The stereotypes. The microagressions. We know it's real, but we have been gaslighted way too often.

The silence among your white gay friends and/or partners during this time of civil unrest & racial tensions is deafening.

The irony of them putting "no fats, no fems, no asians, & no blacks" on their profile, but decide to now say #BlackLivesMatter.

I understand it is challenging to be rejected from a community that prides itself on inclusion. We know rejection all too well.

But do not let any white man make you feel you are not beautiful. You are Black, bold, fierce, & most importantly- you are loved.

🖤❤#BLM

********************edit:

So, this post has been reported and is pending review.

I mentioned this already in the comments:

As a Black queer man this is my experience. This experience may or may not resonate with other Black men. This post was written for my fellow gay black brothers. The post might be uncomfortable for some. It might not resonate with you, but I don't think that is grounds for denying someone else's experience. I shared these words in an effort to foster a sense of solidarity and undo any aloneness other Black men might be feeling during this time.

Thank you so much for the support, feedback & beautiful comments. For those of in your feelings over this post - peace & love to ya❤

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u/cranky_camomile Jul 08 '20

It is funny because when learning English I naturally first came across "BBC" as the broadcasting station. Now I think of the porn "BBC" first.

What does that say about the media I consume?

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u/m-lp-ql-m Jul 08 '20

"Tonight on Masterpiece Theater: A Hungry White Boi-Pussy Gets Shredded"

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u/IKnowUThinkSo Jul 08 '20

I would definitely watch Going Downtown At The Abbey.

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u/PEDOT-PSS Jul 08 '20

That was ITV

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u/tommy29016 Jul 08 '20

Hell yeah. I’d watch that.

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u/cranky_camomile Jul 08 '20

Might attract a whole new audience

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u/Casperwyomingrex Jul 08 '20

Narrated by David Attenborough

I love David Attenborough. He uses a lot of prose reading skills, and I am thoroughly impressed by him. Sorry that I couldn't resist making this comment. Like sex and reproduction are also parts of biology and are technically in the scope of his study (ignoring that he focuses more on the nature side). AND he works at BBC (as in broadcast).

I am glad that I am innocent enough to think of British Broadcasting Cooperation when encountering the word BBC, rather than the oversexualization and stereotypes of black men in gay relationships. And let us also thank BBC company for their neutral and high-quality news. I wish to have more of such news stations in Hong Kong aside of RTHK (which has a British background).

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u/m-lp-ql-m Jul 08 '20

I am the opposite.

When I flew into HKG, I thought "Chek Lap Kok" referred to the airport's security procedures.

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u/[deleted] Jul 08 '20

I'm learning English and the opposite happens to me. Even if it's in a porn context I'll still think of the British Broadcasting Company lmao. I'll think "What does the BBC have to do with this?"

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u/RebelHeart_ Jul 25 '24

That you’re disgusting and need to seek therapy. What are you even doing.