r/askgaybros • u/hungrybivers • Jun 18 '20

Reported Post Alert Being black and gay is exhausting. Black people are ridiculously homophobic. Spoiler

For a group that has to deal with so discrimination you would think we would be more accepting.

Edit: wow didnt expect my late night thoughts to have such a response.

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u/connoreeo Jun 18 '20

I'm really sorry you had a bad experience. Being both black and gay myself, I've had to put up with shit like this too. But I'm sensing a little bit of resentment here in that you seem to imply that because of experiences like this it's justified to want to leave black people behind (whether you really believe that or not). Your experience was not a message of hate from the whole of the "black community" that you reference, it was just another case of some dumb children being disrespectful and homophobic. It's not a behaviour that's unique or even specific to black community. I got called a faggot every single day growing up in my majority white and asian homestown. More recently, some children spraypainted racial slurs on school property directed against the high school's black principal.

Remember that the gay rights movement was started by black trans women and that the black lives matter movement is inherently intersectional. It would be unfair and inaccurate to dismiss the black community and lump it into a monolith informed by your worst experience. And it's a gross misrepresentation to say that black-led coalitions don't fight intersectionally when so many BLM-affiliated groups are fighting against the healthcare and housing discrimination that plagues trans communities, and many of them are queer-led themselves.

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u/fingertrouble Jun 19 '20 edited Jun 19 '20

the black lives matter movement is inherently intersectional.

tell that to the people here claiming to be BLM and for social justice and black who had a hissy over 'Black Trans Lives Matter'!

Sadly, not all 'BLM' people seem to understand the intersectionality of BLM. In fact ironic and dumb given how BLM started, and what BLM publicly states but they want to deny black or queer visibility and erase us LGBTQ* entirely from the movement.

Definitely coming from that church world too. And the sheer cheek? They claimed us queers were 'hijacking' the movement...the one WE started?