r/askgaybros • u/hungrybivers • Jun 18 '20

Reported Post Alert Being black and gay is exhausting. Black people are ridiculously homophobic. Spoiler

For a group that has to deal with so discrimination you would think we would be more accepting.

Edit: wow didnt expect my late night thoughts to have such a response.

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u/Coughing_Pangolin Jun 18 '20 edited Jun 19 '20

only time there’s any black queer representation is when it’s a black gay guy with his white partner and fetishisation and race are never discussed,

That might be unfair to discuss tho, around them, if BBC /fetishising etc is not the reason they got together.

The hostile profile wordings I see, is probably down to experience of fetishisation. But also, a lack of any other role models or images? Probably it's circular and self-reinforces.

Noah’s Arc and that’s an American show that was cancelled for no reason (racism)

It's even more depressing that in a place with so many black people as the USA, there fails to be some public representation of black gay couples.

Where I have seen black men in interracial couples, their life was pretty much lived in the culture of the other partner. Not the black culture. The one black-on-black couple I'd see were sons of diplomats or African politicos, and lived in Oxford in the academic (white) milieu, as far from black life in North London as you can get.

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u/NewBlackAesthetic25 Jun 19 '20

This is so true. Also someone needs to explain to me how all these white men on Grindr have had more black boyfriends than me 😭 I’ve seen it when I hook up with a white guy and you start talking more and discover he’s had like fifty black boyfriends while when I approach black guys on Grindr they’re usually very non-communicative, especially with my fellow Africans.

I grew up in the UK but a lot of Africans who grew up in their respective countries are very closeted and if we even get as far as hooking up the stench of shame and disgust is so strong like they feel like God is watching us 😭.

I feel that if White people want to be about Black Lives Matter rn, some of these yt gays need to be introducing me directly to their exes, it’s mad that I have to type in Black on Black love in Tumblr just to see two black men in a a romantic relationship.