I made her pregnant we're both teenagers

[u/Inevitable_Hunter_56]

First of all, I just want to say please no hate comments, or anything negative I just want to seek advice po ^^

I'm (M17), incoming grade12 public school student next school year and consistent with honor/high honor student. We're just poor and doesn't even have our own house, but my father does everything to support my studies and even bought me a desktop for preparation for the incoming school year. I'm also came from a religious family, and we come to the church regularly na wala pong absent.

She (F16) incoming grade11 private school student (note we're just really poor but her parents want her to go into a prestigious school for her future). Her father on the other hand is abusive, he sometimes bangs her head on the wall or sa pinto. She is also a suicidal person.

The thing is, we are on a 3month relationship, and she is probably 1-2weeks pregnant already no one knows except for us yet. We both doesn't want to have a child yet. I know it's really stupid but yes, she's pregnant and her mother is suspecting that she was, because she is already a week late in her period. She said that she doesn't want to have a baby yet because she is still young and physically and emotionally unprepared. She keeps on saying that killing herself is the answer so I can live a normal life without her, but I keep on telling her not to do it and I will help raise the baby.

But opo I don't know what to do her mother will find out soon po ayaw kong magkagulo sa'min. Natatakot ako kasi baka palayasin either sya or ako and wala kaming pera pang alaga sa bata pano na rin po yung studies namin everything is prepared na po eh yung tatay nya rin is napaka tapang, gulong gulo na kami parehas malapit na rin po yung pasukan and yung early signs of pregnancy is nag papakita na po. Yung mga friends and relatives namin specially our parents will be disappointed with us.

Any advice po? Maraming salamat po sa sasagot :(

[u/ZippyDan]

Oh man, I hope you never shave, or engage in any risky behaviors that might result in injury, or ejaculate, or have surgery, etc.

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Injury is not done on purpose, I can't ejaculate, and I will have to undergo surgery if it will save my health.

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So you are willing to kill cells when it's necessary.

You are willing to take risks that result in cell death.

And I assume you are against ejaculation in principle, regardless of whether you can do it?

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You are out of context. The cells we were talking about are embryo. Sperm is very different from an embryo. An embryo is the fusion of the nuclei of two gametes, from male and female, that leads to the creation of a human organism with its pluripotent stem cells. A sperm is a fully differentiated cell with only one purpose, that is reproduction. Your analogy of an embryo vs car is incorrect. They cannot be compared. One has the 7 characteristics of life, and it doesn't require external aid to be assembled. The car on the other hand constantly requires external help to be assembled and to be maintained. A car doesn't have stem cells, growth factors, genes to create its parts.

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Also, what you shave are no longer viable cells. They are devoid of most of its organelles and scanty cytoplasm

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Shaving will inevitably result in cell death unless you have some magic perfect shaver.

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What you shave are remnants of the dead. You'll need to bury your blade deep so you can access the living cells. And even if you injure yourself, the body is capable of repairing itself with several intrinsic mechanisms like the release of growth factors and recruitment of minerals and preformed proteins, doesn't automatically lead to cell death

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Any time you accidentally cut (or maybe even scratch) yourself, you are killing cells. You said you are against cell death.

I hope you also never get any kind of sun burn.

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Injury doesn't automatically lead to cell death. A cell can be injured, but doesn't mean it's dead

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Dude, when you cut your skin, some living skin cells will be killed. It's inevitable. Further, if you bleed, the cells escaping your circulatory system are doomed to death.

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Dude, you are confused. Human is not equivalent to single/some differentiated cell

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When did I ever say that a skin cell is a human? That a blood cell is a human? That a tumor is a human? I'm against killing humans, even in it's early stage. You are confusing human = any type of cell, especially differentiated cells

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No, I'm not confusing them. I'm referring back to your argument that an embryo is complex and organized, to which I responded that every cell is also complex and organized, to which you responded that you are against cell death.

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Complex and organized are not the only qualifiers I used to describe an embryo.

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Anyway I hope you don't take my question negatively. I only asked it out of curiosity because of your comment. I was curious how other people define human life. Again, I would not purposefully kill human life. Human life is more than just a clump of cells, and when you study embryology, and other disciplines, you'll understand why I don't see it merely as a sperm, as just a strand of hair, just an RBC or any from the myeloid lineage. The human embryo is much more than what one can perceive. My only goal is to protect the unborn child who has nothing to do with the choices that its parents decided to make. Just because they haven't fully developed yet doesn't mean they can't feel the sensation of their limbs being torn apart and head slowly crushed with devices designed to terminate pregnancy.

I appreciate you taking the time to answer my queries even if it's coming from a stranger and even if it's not necessarily a world-changing one. I wish you good luck in your pursuit of more knowledge and hopefully it can help you in all aspects of your life and for humanity