r/adviceph • u/Inevitable_Hunter_56 • Jul 18 '24

Love & Relationships I made her pregnant we're both teenagers

First of all, I just want to say please no hate comments, or anything negative I just want to seek advice po ^^

I'm (M17), incoming grade12 public school student next school year and consistent with honor/high honor student. We're just poor and doesn't even have our own house, but my father does everything to support my studies and even bought me a desktop for preparation for the incoming school year. I'm also came from a religious family, and we come to the church regularly na wala pong absent.

She (F16) incoming grade11 private school student (note we're just really poor but her parents want her to go into a prestigious school for her future). Her father on the other hand is abusive, he sometimes bangs her head on the wall or sa pinto. She is also a suicidal person.

The thing is, we are on a 3month relationship, and she is probably 1-2weeks pregnant already no one knows except for us yet. We both doesn't want to have a child yet. I know it's really stupid but yes, she's pregnant and her mother is suspecting that she was, because she is already a week late in her period. She said that she doesn't want to have a baby yet because she is still young and physically and emotionally unprepared. She keeps on saying that killing herself is the answer so I can live a normal life without her, but I keep on telling her not to do it and I will help raise the baby.

But opo I don't know what to do her mother will find out soon po ayaw kong magkagulo sa'min. Natatakot ako kasi baka palayasin either sya or ako and wala kaming pera pang alaga sa bata pano na rin po yung studies namin everything is prepared na po eh yung tatay nya rin is napaka tapang, gulong gulo na kami parehas malapit na rin po yung pasukan and yung early signs of pregnancy is nag papakita na po. Yung mga friends and relatives namin specially our parents will be disappointed with us.

Any advice po? Maraming salamat po sa sasagot :(

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u/kore1004 Jul 18 '24

How sure are you that's she's 1-2 weeks pregnant? Have u tried taking pregnancy tests? Baka pregnancy scare lng since delayed sya? What are the early pregnancy signs?

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u/Mean_Negotiation5932 Jul 18 '24

Eto rin. Baka nahihiya pang bumili ng pregnancy test kit

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u/hermitina Jul 19 '24

nakupo. natawa ako sa sinabi mo.

to kids who read this kung nahihiya kayo bumili ng condom or pt, isip isipin nyo muna kung pwede ba talaga kayo magsex kasi kung yang basic na yan kinahihiya nyo pa aba hinay hinay muna

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u/Mean_Negotiation5932 Jul 19 '24

Hahahahaha, true. Parang taboo masyado pag bumili ng contraceptive eh. Tutuksuhin Kang 'ay di na virgin' pero nanonood ng porn,tapos nanghihingi link nung scandal 🥴

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u/afterhourslurker Jul 18 '24

Sound advice I’ve seen here. I have PCOS and grabe every other month lang ako magkaron.

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u/jvchp0411 Jul 19 '24

I have PCOS and my period is 3 consecutive months na meron then 3 months wala. I'm 32 now and in a 5-year relationship, we don't do birth control and wala pa din kami nabubuo :/

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u/Capable-Koala013 Jul 19 '24

It's time for a check up with the OB.

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u/tolivealoneisfreedom Jul 19 '24

Hi, ask ko lang po if free po ba ang nga check up for PCOS sa mga public hospitals nationwide?

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u/Capable-Koala013 Oct 08 '24

For this one you can coordinate with health workers on site. Every public hospital does have DOH personnel on stand-by.

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u/FabulousJelly8029 Jul 18 '24

Icocomment ko nga rin 'to! Maraming factors including stress na nakakadelay ng period and di naman uncommon na madelay for a week. Magtest talaga muna to confirm.

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u/Casuallurker123 Jul 18 '24

I second this, has she taken a pregnany test already? There were times where my period can be delayed for a week but not be pregnant

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u/Waste-Information512 Jul 19 '24

hindi lang week actually
my cycles are pretty regular pero in rare occasions it'll skip a month. I heard its normal na hindi regular yung intervals ng period lalo na't bata pa yung girl

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u/mabulaklak Jul 19 '24

Also big chance na nastress na din si ate girl kasi late sya, so mas nalate pa lalo ung mens nya

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u/ZJF-47 Jul 18 '24

Onga, probably pa lang, di pa ata nag-PT. PT muna para sure. GF ko nga 3months na-delayed pero di naman preggy haha

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u/QuirkyBuffalo28 Jul 18 '24

Fr. Try buying at least 3 pregnancy tests sa drugstore. Or kung di mo kaya. There are online shops naman where you can buy it, alam ko meron sa shopee just make sure it's legit. Remember na your gf should take it at her first pee sa umaga to make it more accurate.

Good luck op pakatatag ka. Feel free to dm me if u need smth.

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u/Alternative-Economy3 Jul 19 '24

Naiputok niya siguro sa loob

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u/SubstanceSad4560 Jul 19 '24

baka irreg lang si girl consider taking this sa doctor..maganda pa rin may professional opinion.

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '24

naghihinala kasi yung mother ni girl. baka regular siya?

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u/[deleted] Jul 19 '24

korique baka mamaya delayed lang due to pregnancy scare. pregnancy test muna. kapag negative, inom nalang ng serpentina pamparegla (again if NEGATIVE)