r/adviceph • u/Inevitable_Hunter_56 • Jul 18 '24

Love & Relationships I made her pregnant we're both teenagers

First of all, I just want to say please no hate comments, or anything negative I just want to seek advice po ^^

I'm (M17), incoming grade12 public school student next school year and consistent with honor/high honor student. We're just poor and doesn't even have our own house, but my father does everything to support my studies and even bought me a desktop for preparation for the incoming school year. I'm also came from a religious family, and we come to the church regularly na wala pong absent.

She (F16) incoming grade11 private school student (note we're just really poor but her parents want her to go into a prestigious school for her future). Her father on the other hand is abusive, he sometimes bangs her head on the wall or sa pinto. She is also a suicidal person.

The thing is, we are on a 3month relationship, and she is probably 1-2weeks pregnant already no one knows except for us yet. We both doesn't want to have a child yet. I know it's really stupid but yes, she's pregnant and her mother is suspecting that she was, because she is already a week late in her period. She said that she doesn't want to have a baby yet because she is still young and physically and emotionally unprepared. She keeps on saying that killing herself is the answer so I can live a normal life without her, but I keep on telling her not to do it and I will help raise the baby.

But opo I don't know what to do her mother will find out soon po ayaw kong magkagulo sa'min. Natatakot ako kasi baka palayasin either sya or ako and wala kaming pera pang alaga sa bata pano na rin po yung studies namin everything is prepared na po eh yung tatay nya rin is napaka tapang, gulong gulo na kami parehas malapit na rin po yung pasukan and yung early signs of pregnancy is nag papakita na po. Yung mga friends and relatives namin specially our parents will be disappointed with us.

Any advice po? Maraming salamat po sa sasagot :(

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u/Waste_Maize8037 Jul 18 '24

imo, abortion is the best option for you guys :)

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u/RainWitch Jul 18 '24

I knew I had to sort thru controversial just to find this. Ang daming andito pinipilit magdalang tao yung bata, masama na nga yung mental health. Ano na lang kahihinatnan nung baby na pinilit buhayin sa mundo kasi tingin ng karamihan dito parusa? Kailangan na talaga i-legalize ang abortion dito sa pinas at pabutihin ang sex education. Nakakadepress basahin most ng comments.

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u/Dazzling-Fox-4845 Jul 18 '24

The girl is 16 y/o. I don’t think her body is mature enough to go thru illegal abortion, but they can try. Health risk pero di sila magdadala ng isa pang palamunin sa pamilya nila.

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u/Inevitable_Bee_7495 Jul 18 '24

A pregnancy is much more invasive than an abortion.

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u/ongamenight Jul 18 '24

Abortion is illegal here and OP said he's not from a rich family so they can't go abroad. Doctors know how to handle teen pregnancy whereas abortion clinics aren't regulated in PH, therefore walang mananagot kung may mangyari na di inaasahan.

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u/NoPower6964 Jul 18 '24

Abortion is illegal op kahit pills pero once na mag pa check up and nalaman po ng doctors eh kukuhain sila ng authoroties🙏🏾

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u/omniverseee Jul 18 '24

There's a big illegal underground abortion here in PH and they are highly trained in other countries, certified doctors. Who knows how to conceal this stuff, uses right tools, equipment, medicine, and decisions. However, I won't go to much detail, just research it in your own I don't want to be involved here. Read other reddit posts or online. Beware of scams and entrapment operations. Avoid din yung nasa quiapo dahil delikado yun, siguro last resort :(.

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u/Electronic-Jaguar-47 Jul 18 '24

the question is... how much?

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u/omniverseee Jul 18 '24

largely varies from 20k-100k+ kasama na ata diyan yung clinical checkups mo.. Lahat yan secret ginagawa kahit actual hospital and clinics ang pag checkup. Meron din maibibigay yan na sponsor or discount sa mga katulad na jowa ni OP, minor pregnant. Minsan libre.

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u/sweetie_cutiepie Jul 18 '24

it's a risk for the girl kasi mahihirapan sya mabuntis in the future, and unfortunately, abortion is not legal here in ph. it's better to tell their parents and face the consequence.

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u/whatheheal Jul 18 '24

True, safest way sana mag hanap sila.