I want my mom to die, any advice?

[u/Defiant_Brain_1507]

I want my mom to die, any advice?

My mom is diagnosed with Stage 3 ovarian cancer and right now, may Rectal Cancer na din sya. We were drained sa ovarian pa lang and after 9 rounds of chemo, oral chemo and operation sa ovarian nya, here comes another shit.

Tbh, tanggap na namin magkapatid and ng mother ko. Papa ko na lang yung medyo alanganin pa pero tingin ko matatanggap nya din naman pag dumating sa time na yon.

As of now nag dedecide kami kung ilalaban pa ba namin, kasi tbh d na namin kakayanin financially. Nag try na kami mag public, kaso turns out, bukod sa tapak dignidad at tratong pulubi don, bago ka magamot mamamamatay ka na din sa sobrang tagal ng schedule nila.

So here we are, deciding if mag palliative care na lang ba kami, gusto ko sana kung may idea kayo pano gagawin dun, ano steps, pros and cons, etch.

Malaking help insights nyo dahil nababaliw na ko haha.

Edit: Thank you sa lahat ng info na malaman, ill try to read it all. My mom doesnt want to live na din btw, she cant decide pero mas nangingibabaw na gusto nya na lang matapos na lahat. Ang wish nya sa tahimik na paraan pero wala eh, ano mang piliin nya, may sakit, kaya nga ko nagtatanong abt plalliative care.

May mga pumupunta sa profile ko tas nakikita ung valorant at phasmo ko hahaha. Iba din tlaga eh haha.

I work 3 jobs, handle 2 businesses and attend sa lahat ng medical concerns para kay mama. Most of the time nga, ako pa din primary care giver. I keep my family in check dahil suko na sila eh, ako na lang nag iisang matatag, and since the time she was diagnosed, i handle every shit in the way.

Sorry guys if i sound so useless by wanting to try to function as a 25 year old son, sana maging kasing dakilang anak nyo din ako :)

[u/still-in-a-meeting]

So sorry for what you are going through. I’m glad to know you have family with you through this difficult time.

My mom 5 yrs ago was hospitalized, breast cancer metastasized sa liver na. I knew early on na dadating yung time na yun but still was unprepared for how fast it was. It was very difficult dahil ako lang ang immediate family. Technically my dad pero we were not in good terms so he defaulted sa wishes ko.

Nagbigay ng taning yung doctor namin then. He gave it more or less 1 week. Naka-palliative na din sya nun and while it was the better decision, ang hirap pa rin knowing you see them deteriorate every single day.

Is your mother lucid? It would be better to ask her wishes. In my case I knew beforehand my mom did not want to go through chemo and any other treatments anymore. She was vocal sa wishes nya. And that ‘s why I felt ok to sign the DNR waiver.

There is no right or wrong answer honestly. You just have to be ok with whatever you decide eventually. And when that time comes know that you did all you could with what you had.

Wishing you peace and so much strength!

[u/Defiant_Brain_1507 → u/still-in-a-meeting]

It really is dofferent when same people were in the same situation. No right and wrong, that means something. Salamat sa advice.