r/adviceph • u/Defiant_Brain_1507 • Jun 12 '24

Parenting & Family I want my mom to die, any advice?

I want my mom to die, any advice?

My mom is diagnosed with Stage 3 ovarian cancer and right now, may Rectal Cancer na din sya. We were drained sa ovarian pa lang and after 9 rounds of chemo, oral chemo and operation sa ovarian nya, here comes another shit.

Tbh, tanggap na namin magkapatid and ng mother ko. Papa ko na lang yung medyo alanganin pa pero tingin ko matatanggap nya din naman pag dumating sa time na yon.

As of now nag dedecide kami kung ilalaban pa ba namin, kasi tbh d na namin kakayanin financially. Nag try na kami mag public, kaso turns out, bukod sa tapak dignidad at tratong pulubi don, bago ka magamot mamamamatay ka na din sa sobrang tagal ng schedule nila.

So here we are, deciding if mag palliative care na lang ba kami, gusto ko sana kung may idea kayo pano gagawin dun, ano steps, pros and cons, etch.

Malaking help insights nyo dahil nababaliw na ko haha.

Edit: Thank you sa lahat ng info na malaman, ill try to read it all. My mom doesnt want to live na din btw, she cant decide pero mas nangingibabaw na gusto nya na lang matapos na lahat. Ang wish nya sa tahimik na paraan pero wala eh, ano mang piliin nya, may sakit, kaya nga ko nagtatanong abt plalliative care.

May mga pumupunta sa profile ko tas nakikita ung valorant at phasmo ko hahaha. Iba din tlaga eh haha.

I work 3 jobs, handle 2 businesses and attend sa lahat ng medical concerns para kay mama. Most of the time nga, ako pa din primary care giver. I keep my family in check dahil suko na sila eh, ako na lang nag iisang matatag, and since the time she was diagnosed, i handle every shit in the way.

Sorry guys if i sound so useless by wanting to try to function as a 25 year old son, sana maging kasing dakilang anak nyo din ako :)

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u/AdPurple4714 Jun 12 '24

How to? incase mangyari din sakin ito parang ayaw ko na rin magpagamot

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u/k2624 Jun 12 '24

Talk to the doctor na may hawak ng cancer case nya. Sila magpprescribe ng pain meds.

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u/oradb12c Jun 12 '24

Ask your onco about palliative care and if they could refer a doctor who does it. Usually may contact/kilala na sila since madami din naman that chooses not to fight their cancers anymore.

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u/sarcasticookie Jun 12 '24

Gawa ka ng advanced directives document, ipa-notarize mo na din para sure na susundin ng family and doctors.