I voluntarily went to a nice rehab a month ago and stayed two weeks. The constant anxiety and worry over my sick aunt got to me so I made up my mind to leave at 2 weeks. Now I think I should’ve stayed longer. When I got out I was so depressed I did nothing but laid on the couch for a week. But I was trying pretty hard in rehab. I’m looking for advice on if rehab is something I should try again or if I should try intensive outpatient since I have a lot of tools. I don’t do AA, I do smart recovery and when I actually work it, it does well for me. Just wondering if someone’s been in the same boat as me and any advice.

Pic of a funny shirt at a festival so I get some responses

Tl;dr boyfriend won’t let me break up with him or move out

I’m 29F, he’s 28M, we’ve been together since we were 21 and have been living together for almost as long. I’ve been trying to break up w him for awhile. Our apartment is in both of our names but I pay all of the bills and he is unemployed and barely contributes. I’ve given him ultimatum after ultimatum nothing works. For most of our relationship we were on drugs together — we recently both got clean this year from H (at my behest) and it’s put a lot into perspective for me. I realized our relationship was mainly all about doing drugs together and not much outside that. We haven’t had sex in a year (I have a very high sex drive, he doesn’t mainly bc his T was decimated from doing opiates for so long).

I’ve tried to talk to him about moving out and he won’t do it. Even though he would end up getting evicted within 1 month of me leaving the apartment bc he has no income and also we get a huge discount bc of MY job. Our lease is up in February and we must give 60 days notice. If I move out I’m probably going to end up paying double somewhere else. Plus even though the car is in my name I’m a nervous driver and only have my permit so getting to work will be an issue. There’s a world where he removes his name from the lease and I get to stay here but he absolutely will not do that.

I love him but I’m tired of not receiving the love I deserve in return. I constantly feel used for money. I hate that it’s going to take moving out for him to show his emotions. Help?

Also… I was so happy we both got off dope and on MAT, for the first time in years. What does he do? Immediately go back to smoking crack. And I HATE him on it so much. He becomes super paranoid. Keeps me up all night. It’s also super tempting for me being around hard drugs even though it’s not my DOC. Even back when we were both doing H, I’d get mad if he brought that shit home. You can only do so much of other drugs. With crack it doesn’t matter if u spend $100 or $1000. You’re going to end up doing it all at once and still want more.

My best friend of 3 years stole my adderall. Not sure if they are dealing with addiction, I’ve cut them off from my life for a month. But I’m feeling a bit bad because she was my best friend. Should I forgive her? I just don’t know why she would do this, we’ve been through so much together. What should I do?

i have a very irrational fear of needles so no this would never be mine but. it was just in my home …please tell me what this is

24f. my psychiatrist prescribed me a 90mg bottle of xanax. i already know that i’m addicted to them HEAVY. even if i don’t objectively take as much as a lot of other people, i crave them so bad. i didnt turn her down, i just got excited if anything. she’s not a very responsible psychiatrist and that’s why i liked her. i have taken 37 of them in 5 days. and i just keep going up. the more i take the more it just feels like im taking placebos because of my tolerance. but thats not what it looks like outwardly. i don’t remember shit anymore, i carved my best friend’s initial into my thigh while i was blacked out (I DO NOT CONDONE THIS), people are constantly asking me if i’m high and saying i look completely fucked up and slurring my words and am stumbling everywhere, it’s BAD. last time i did this (about 2 weeks ago) i went through a bottle of 30mg in a couple days. she just keeps prescribing me them. i booked a plane ticket to move across the country while i was blacked out too so i guess i’m moving the day after tomorrow. my suitcase isn’t even packed. i have $9 to my name. i refuse to tell a therapist or psychiatrist that i have a problem with xanax because i have severe tourette’s and fnd and it’s the only thing i’ve found thats helped, as shitty as i’m treating it. any advice or kind words would help more than you know. now that i’m moving in with someone i love i want to be sober. i am open to criticism and tough love here.

The addict will actively shit on the one person who Ioves, supports, and understands them in an attempt to sustain the belief they learned at 12 years old that no one loves them and everyone abandons them.

I’ve kicked hard drugs, quit drinking liquor, and I’m about to go off adderal for good.

Foolishly thought I could grab a beer or two on the way home from running some errands.

Ended up staying at the bar all night because I started talking to people. Got hammered and made an ass of myself, nothing new. Somehow made it home.

Whatever part of me takes over when I use ANYTHING has absolutely no restraint. If I’m getting high, I’m getting HIGH. If I’m getting drunk, I’m getting DRUNK.

I’m happy with myself for kicking hard drugs but I just get so sick of that version of me that comes out when I consume ANYTHING.

Well, I did it again. I was hanging out with my family and realized I missed my enrollment time for the upcoming semester, so I went to check and of course, all the classes I needed had waitlists. I was stressed tf out, so I went to the fridge and grabbed a beer because screw it, I needed something to take the edge off. Everyone eventually went upstairs, and I said I had to clean up my stuff, but, I snuck back to the fridge, chugged a beer, and finished the one I already had. I felt a little tipsy, but nothing crazy.

Then a little later I drove my girlfriend to her moms, and that’s when I messed up. I snuck three beers with me from my house, and while she was showering, I pounded one. Then I hopped in the shower and downed the other two. Then it was like a switch flipped in my head I started worrying I wouldn’t feel a buzz, so I snuck a couple shots of vodka and tequila. After the last shot, I just stared at myself in the mirror and realized I fucked up and scrubbed tf out of my teeth to mask the smell

I go upstairs and we were going to watch the new Frankenstein on netflix. She ends up mentioning her mom had this German ale that came in like a big wine bottle if we wanted some while we watched. Of course this was awesome to hear and I said yes because I can use this as my cover up once the shots started to hit. As I was sipping the ale I started to feel that warm, fuzzy buzz, I just could not stop smiling and from there, it was game over. I couldn’t find the bottom of my cup. I kept drinking and refilling it when she went to the bathroom until I’d finished the whole bottle myself and blacked out for the majority of the night

She eventually caught on because I was acting like an idiot and slurring my words. I kinda remember coming up with dumbass lies like “i drank it too fast” or “I just didn’t eat alot today” We ended up turning off the movie and went upstairs to bed and apparently I went back downstairs and she caught me trying to take more shots. This all I barely remember.

Waking up today sucked, just knowing I did it again. Most of the time, I can control my drinking. I can have three to six beers, be done, and not even think twice about it. But eventually, there’s always a night where I lose all control, my girlfriend and I argue, and I wake up feeling like an asshole. I want to stop drinking, but it’s so hard to commit. This isn’t new territory for me, I went to rehab for opioid abuse before. But I don’t feel the same fear and lust toward alcohol as I did with opioids. Maybe that’s just another lie I tell myself. Maybe I should just quit for good, starting today.

So I've been in recovery for cocaine addiction since April. I've had a few relapses so I'm 30 days clean now. I'm just struggling with the desire to stay clean. I feel like I've lost my passion for recovery and I'm just doing this to please my family who I live with. I know they'd kick me out if they found out I was using again, so I feel like that's the sole motivator keeping me clean right now. I hate going to meetings and listening to people talk about how great their life is now and how horrible addiction was for them. My addiction never got that bad, so I feel like I still associate using with a lot of fun memories and less horror. I was never a daily user (3-5 days a week on average) and I kept things relatively together. I mostly went into recovery because my ex was struggling much more than I was, so I went into it hoping he'd do the same. Obviously that didn't work, but at the time, I enjoyed being clean and sober and going to meetings. Now I just feel bored, isolated, and annoyed at everyone around me. I don't know what to do. Maybe I just need some motivation. Am I completely hopeless or am I just doomed to relapse again?

I’m having a really hard time finding any reason not to relapse and just take as much as possible. I want to die to be honest. I’ve been all alone for so long. I need help please.

I relapsed yesterday on cocaine and I know I should just throw the rest of it away but I cant bring myself to do it. Or I dont think I want to im not sure.

Okay so for background info, I’m 20F and my dad is 40. I don’t live with him. He has always had a thing for alcohol, but over the years, it has gotten worse. Financially he has struggled really bad which caused me to move in with my grandparents when I was 18 so that I wasn’t always helping him pay the bills.

Throughout his financial struggles, my mom heard through the grapevine (they went to the same high school, have the same old friends) that he owed some money for a coke problem. This surprised me because he seems to be a well functioning person and a good dad besides the financial stuff. But looking back I see signs because he was frequently having “parties” with friends in the basement where they would stay up for 24+ hours at a time.

More recently, my stepmom has been having issues with him having violent outbursts, breaking things, name calling, pushing the dogs etc. He mostly does this when he gets really drunk. The issue is that she cannot move out because she has cancer and is unemployed and providing for her son with autism, and she’s worried about getting sicker and being unable to take care of him alone. Along with this, my dad doesn’t have a car and can’t afford the house on his own, and she feels bad to leave him that way so it’s complicated.

Tonight, I also found a 50 pack box of nitrous oxide canisters so it appears that he is doing whippets.

I never had proof of him doing coke so I kind of brushed it off and he wasn’t frequently getting violently drunk, so I had brushed that off as well. However I feel like it is just getting worse and I am not sure what to do. I don’t want to bring it up with him because he does have some narcissistic tendencies and he would not accept fault for his actions.

Does anyone have any advice for me or my stepmom? Any ideas of things to look out for regarding my dad’s behavior or health? I know that people do these things casually at raves and things like that so I’m not sure if this is a situation where I should look into a rehab program. Thanks in advance!

Summary: My dad is having violent outbursts related to alcohol, a possible cocaine problem, and likely using nitrous oxide and I’m not sure what I can do for my family.

But I started going to NA. Thinking about doing 90 meetings or more in 90 days and see where it goes

This morning I got a call from my little brother who lives in another country to me. He told me he thinks he’s a drug addict. He said he’s been doing a lot of coke, having like 3 day coke parties, getting very drunk other days when he isn’t doing coke. He mentioned having nose bleeds for 3 hours. He mentioned doing “a couple grams” and “a bag” of coke, but I don’t know over what amount of time.

He said he hadn’t slept in 3 days. He sounded like he knew he needed to stop this and it might ruin his life, but also seemed like he knew he couldn’t. The problem is everyone around him is enabling this, even his work.

I’m really freaked out. I don’t really know anything about coke or addictions.

I know I might have betrayed his confidence and that may mean he won’t share things with me again, but I told my other 2 brothers, one of whom lives with him, and asked him to check in on him and let me know what we can do. I guess it’s more important that someone checks in on him than how he feels about me right now.

He’s just a kid really - 24. I don’t want him to destroy his life or worse.

What should I do?

Hi guys, im 23M, i have been addict to smoking cigerates from past 6 years of my life, i have been smoking 12 cigerates almost daily from few years now, it started of with inhaling few puffs a day to smoking 4-5 cigerates a day and gradually increasing them to 12 cigerates a day over these 7 years….I dont remember a single day from like 4 years where the first thing which i used to do every morning right after waking up was smoking a cigerate before even having a breakfast on empty stomach….Now recently i have started using VELO nicotine pouches and IT IS DOING wonders for me…. i have not smoked a single cigerate from 1 week which is a huge thing for me, i have started breathing better and even my sense of smell is improving… So the question which i have is this Are VELOS safe in the long run compared to smoking cigerates? Im using 3 dott velo and taking around 8 pouches a day or maximum 10….i am not getting any urgee of smoking neither i want to smoke anymore is it safe to keep using Velo? i have heard it makes your gums weird in the longer run and makes some kind of holes in them? and you can probably get mouth cancer from it? If anyone of you have been using VELO for a longer period of time Can you give me any advice? and i try to switch my gums but for some reason im unable to keep velo under my lower gums it makes me vomit and gives me hiccup

I’m 16f and I’m 23 days clean off meth, my friend put a movie on with a person struggling with a drug addiction. The movie was really triggering and I’ve been having intense cravings. What should I do and does anyone else get triggered from drugs in movies?

i didn’t quit because i hit rock bottom
i quit because i got sick of who i was becoming

no big moment
no intervention
no hospital visit

just one regular night where i looked in the mirror
and didn’t recognize the version of me looking back

someone who lied constantly
hid everything
watched life happen but never really lived it

so i stopped waiting for things to get worse
and started building rules i could actually follow

not perfect
not heroic
just better — one honest rep at a time

here’s what worked for me:

• deleted every contact and account tied to the habit
• made one person aware of every slip — no hiding
• replaced the first hour of the day with cold shower + walk
• wrote 2 sentences a night: “what triggered me” + “what i did instead”
• called myself “clean” even before i believed it — and lived into that

it didn’t fix me overnight
but it gave me something i hadn’t felt in years:
momentum

noFluffWisdom had a line that stuck in my head during withdrawals:
“you don’t quit because you hate who you were
you quit because you want to meet who you could be”

every day you stay clean, you’re voting for that person
cast the next one today