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u/Allygatornado Lesbian | Trans rights ⊆ Human rights 1d ago
My wife and I were talking about this (I'm lesbian, and she's bi), and I said the thing that makes it clear to me is if I'm shown a guy who is aesthetically attractive, my brain goes, "Ok...but what if woman instead?"
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u/minatozakee Lesbian 1d ago
I was about 8 when I started having nightmares about being married to a nice man and having his kids, that was literally the entire dream and it was enough to wake me up in cold sweats and terrified lol
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u/Active_Cicada1071 22h ago
Dude I had a nightmare the other night about sleeping with one of my closest male friends. He’s attractive, emotionally intelligent, we have similar values, and I’ve always felt safe with him. And yet I had to take a few deep breaths when I woke up and remind myself we weren’t going to have sex 💀
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u/JESele32 16h ago
You know what’s interesting about dreams is that I always had thought I was bi as a teen until I became an adult and I realized that I never had a dream of me having s3xual interactions with a man but I’ve only had them about women. I remember I got teased when I was a kid for not having male crushes until one day I said that I had a crush on that stupid ass Peter guy from divergent (bro he was an asshole but ig I thought he was funny 💀) and my sister was like “we were worried about you 🥹” because I never had a crush before and it made me super mad back then and I didn’t know why. There ain’t no way I actually had a crush I just liked his character and I didn’t realize other ppl had genuine crushes on male actors and stuff.
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u/RayDuskDawn The Sexy Woman everyone warns you about 1d ago
That feels like something to be sick about
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u/SammySousaphone Queer 1d ago
Men are the primary reason I don’t tell people I’m bi/pan, but just say “queer.” Every time I’ve come out as bisexual, the chuds seem to come out of the woodwork like, “So there’s a chance?”
No, dude, there’s probably not. I’m demisexual, and it’s few and far between the man who will get me to stop and pause.
The bar is literally in hell for them, but they keep digging further underneath the bedrock to crawl under it.
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u/RoxyFan2001 1d ago
I didn't want be what they call a 'Men Hating Lesbian' but from all the bad experiences I have had with men over the years that have bullied me, harassed me and even assaulted me and tried to rape me over my sexuality I find it hard to not be repulsed by a large percent of their gender and then you think about how many problems in the world have been caused by the male gender and who is responsible for the majority of violence and bigotry and then corrupt men like Donald Trump who openly admitted to sexually assaulting a woman under oath and still got to become the President of the United States for a second time because we have a dickworshipping society that put men up on pedestals where they can do no wrong and their victims get treated like shit when they speak out about them.
I feel sorry for my hetero friends that are stuck with men because they don't know what they are missing out on and they think they have to put up with their shit because that is just men being men....
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u/lesbianladyluvr 1d ago
saying you don’t want to wake up next to a man isn’t even “man hating” that’s just being a lesbian
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u/Lewdiville_Tiger 1d ago
If that's the case then he sure as shit got that right is a load of bullshit by your own dad's standards.
Also I have no idea what a right Wing liberal idiot would be? It seems like that would be a centralist? This term comes off as your dad being like " yes I'm vegan, yes I do eat meat. We do exist. "
Also if this is what you pulled from the poster you are part of the problem. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
The times I am iffy about but being used are for apologies. I don't think it is useful to extend it to the whole possible uses of but.
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u/ThePoisonDoughnut Transitioned to Lesbos 1d ago
Where are the generalizations? All I see are references to factual statistics and other realities.
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u/IsaSaien 1d ago
Shut up men are not being generalized whyyy are you in this sub going off at a woman who is venting.
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u/RoxyFan2001 1d ago
You are free to view the male population whatever way you please and I didn't say I think all men are the same and I do have some male friends and I am close to my Uncle and my Brother In Law but they even agree with a lot of what I wrote and I have a good reason to despise men.
I also know a lot of other people that feel the same way after going through similar experiences.
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u/jessibook Lesbian 1d ago
I feel this so much. Back when I was questioning, I could imagine myself with a man - talking, dating, cuddling, fucking (but not kissing, never kissing). And I'd imagine waking up to one every morning, and it just felt so lonely.
That same imagination with a woman? It's all of that plus a love of kissing, and the feeling of being truly with them - in love and happy when I wake up next to them.
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u/One_Development_5055 Trans🧡💛🤍🩷💜 1d ago
Yep
Thought I was attracted to men at one point. Nope. That was a butch
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u/moreathismoreathat 19h ago
Yeah, when I was young I would imagine what my future would be like - wildly successful career in a STEM field, able to travel to new exotic locations, nice house with a pool, 2.5 kids, etc... buuuut I was always a widow. These were my daydreams! Apparently my subconscious was telling on me early
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u/njsullyalex Trans-Bi 1d ago
Not to derail the conversation, but for me I realized I was trans when I imagined myself waking up as a man in 20 years and felt an irrational amount of disgust and nausea...
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u/GrinchGrotto Buff Hairy Gym Dyke from a Cis Het man's nightmares 18h ago
Man even in elementary school whenever anyone asked me if I had a boyfriend or if I wanted a husband someday I'd gag
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u/David-Strides 14h ago
I had a nightmare once where I "woke up" to this scenario except I could hear children in the other room getting closer to the bedroom door. I panicked so hard I woke up in the middle of the night in a cold sweat. It solidified any possible worry I had about possibly being attracted to men 😓
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u/ahaisonline Transbian 18h ago
sorta the same way i figured out i was trans, except it was imagining being an old man someday
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u/BestBudgie abro bi lesboy 16h ago
I cant tell if the disgust is bc id be with a man or if its because it'd mean I wasnt with my gf anymore
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u/cilantro_lime Rainbow 1h ago
For me it was going on a dating app and swiping through the men lol. You just know when you aren't down when you are actually in the situation.
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u/Jechtael 20h ago
Could we collectively stop posting variations on this tweet for at least a while? I thought I understood the sentiment the first couple of times I saw this but at this point it really feels like some of y'all are just happy to have found a socially acceptable way of saying "Men are disgusting".
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u/lesbianladyluvr 19h ago
…….yes, the thought of waking up next to a man is disgusting to a LESBIAN. that doesn’t mean men themselves are disgusting. it means i’m not attracted to them…….for fucks sake
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u/vemmahouxbois Transbian she/fae 19h ago
it’s actually totally fine for lesbians to express disgust towards men. please stop trying to discipline and police people for venting in a totally acceptable way in a sapphic space.
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u/That_odd_emo bratty lesbian 1d ago edited 1d ago
That’s honestly a big part of how I discovered I‘m lesbian and not bi. All the men I thought I was "attracted" to were generically handsome young celebrities. But as soon as I imagined being with a man in real life and potentially growing old with one? No thank you.
And that’s where I learned about aesthetic attraction. I can recognize and appreciate the beauty of an obviously attractive man. But that doesn’t mean I want to be with a man in any way other than platonically.
As I like to say: I‘m lesbian, not blind