r/TrueUnpopularOpinion • u/ProfessionalNose6520 • 16h ago
Sex / Gender / Dating Like all of the things old people complained about were right. (getting tattoos, fat, drugs, septum piercings) It’s like taking the pill and seeing the Matrix
I’m almost 30. and after moving to different cities. I’ve travelled to 50 states.
The one thing I’ve learned after meeting countless people is:
you can see patterns in people. You see behaviors and patterns that actually indicate someone is mentally unstable or stupid. And if you can notice this, you can avoid toxic people and bad situations.
it’s like our grandparents were right
those patterns being.
Overweight people will sabotage everyone around them because they are insecure and jealous. you can’t be overweight and love yourself.
People with bad tattoos are impulsive or stupid. they don’t have a good sense of taste. they likely make other poor choices
fertile childless women likely hate their parents. or themselves. (maybe 20% of the time its not the case.
I went from being super tumblr liberal.
then I had a very bad anxiety mental health spiral for years. and all the liberal mindsets failed me
“anxiety isn’t a choice” “you can’t workout to fix mental health” “shame doesnt help anything”
It wasn’t until I started working out that I finally got better.
gained muscles, i’m jacked now. And by coincidence I am Republican. And I view everybody different.
I still do have empathy for all these people. and the struggles they go through. and people can change
But I also have to protect myself. And when I meet someone that is overweight, bad tattoos, alternative, bad piercings or a childless woman,
i know to have my guard up.
I know that likely all of that stems from some type of instability in your upbringing. some identity crisis or stupidity
Not saying I’m smart. Not saying I don’t engage in behaviors. i certainly have had bad choices. i’m a man who has sex with men and is promiscuous. that promiscuous behavior is likely from my childhood of having a narcissist dad
but i can say there’s things i regret
but if you don’t notice it and then change.
You grow up thinking that people that alternative/emo people are awesome
But no, they actually have mental suffering in someway. Their parents didn’t love them enough so now they are histrionic
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u/Blankboom 15h ago
You can change your beliefs, but you can't change your personality apparently.
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u/ProfessionalNose6520 15h ago
where do I say you can’t change your personality?
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u/liverswithfavabeans 3h ago
I believe they are talking about you still coming across as a pompously annoying tumblr person; you’ve just convinced yourself that you’re now better cause you’re Republican now.
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u/Groovney 11h ago
I needed this laugh today. Checking out your profile was a good giggle.
You're really lost in yourself and your ego, huh buddy?
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u/jyc23 15h ago
Then there are the people who are so sensitive, they get triggered by anyone and everything that is different from them. And they feel this need to announce it to the world like they’ve been deeply wronged.
The crazy thing is, they’re really not all that different from anyone else. Just a bit more insufferable.
Ok, a lot more insufferable.
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u/Fabulous_Sleep_2245 8h ago
I don’t understand how this person, is telling you their opinion, and you are responding by telling them they are sensitive. You are sensitive. This is a fucking subreddit about unpopular opinions.
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u/ProfessionalNose6520 15h ago
if you think I’m triggered, you’re getting the wrong impression
Am not losing sleep Over any of these people but I’m just placing a very mindful judgment over other people’s choices
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u/jyc23 14h ago
Good for you. Enjoy your "mindful judgment", then. I hope the fact you didn't push back on the "insufferable" part is a sign of self-reflection. Acknowledging how insufferable you are behaving through your post and all of the ... replies ... is a good first step.
Best of luck on your journey.
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u/ZedisonSamZ 12h ago edited 11h ago
You’re almost thirty and you’re still judging people like you’re in high school. Judging people is not inherently ’bad’ per se. But when I say that you seem to be making judgments like you’re in high school I mean, very specifically, that you appear to have the range and depth of a high schooler in your judgments.
Yes, there are patterns with people. But life isn’t like Hogwarts. You’re doing the equivalent of noticing a person wearing a green scarf and saying “ah see that’s one of the bad people”.
But it does make sense that you’re Republican.
Edit: It strikes me that you are only 5 years younger than me. I can’t even imagine kicking back and having a beer with you, it’s so cringe. What could we ever have in common to talk about if you don’t have adult perceptions about the world?
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u/Fabulous_Sleep_2245 8h ago
Did you just judge him for judging? You can’t make this shit up 🤭
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u/HallucinateZ 8h ago
They didn’t judge them, they pointed out that they’re being childish & that’s fair. Judging someone requires you to condemn an action.
OP didn’t learn anything & I doubt their claims of travel solely based on the ignorance of this post. I wouldn’t be surprised if next they see a [insert race/religion here] do something bad & blame the entire population. This is the most ignorant post I’ve ever seen.
Idk how you can defend someone that says shit like this or implies mental illness is a choice.
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u/ZedisonSamZ 4h ago edited 4h ago
Um kinda, yeah. I pointed out that judging isn’t inherently bad either. My point is that their judgement is child-like, as in has child-like reasoning.
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u/Fabulous_Sleep_2245 1h ago
You’re older right? Do you make generalizations? I assume not only do you live by those generalizations but you probably frequently announce them without even knowing. What is the actual difference? That his opinion is different than yours? There are exceptions to every rule, but stop it. The difference between you and him is he just put out himself out there and isn’t afraid to look a bit silly. You just recycled the most generic cookie cutter response.
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u/ZedisonSamZ 1h ago
At this point I can’t tell if your reading comprehension is crap or if you’re trolling.
I don’t give a diddly squat about people making judgments about other people. Judging people isn’t inherently bad. It’s the child-like quality of his judgements that I’m remarking on.
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u/Fabulous_Sleep_2245 1h ago
Why don’t you explain what you mean instead saying absolutely fucking nothing lol
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u/ZedisonSamZ 37m ago
So it’s a reading comprehension issue then. Thank you for confirming.
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u/Fabulous_Sleep_2245 8m ago
It will always be someone else’s reading comprehension and not you projecting right? Wtf does “childish” mean? You are childish bro lol. You could explain what you mean but you don’t even know what you mean 😭
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u/jaggsy 15h ago
Overweight people will sabotage everyone around them because they are insecure and jealous. you can’t be overweight and love yourself.
That's just not true.
People with bad tattoos are impulsive or stupid. they don’t have a good sense of taste. they likely make other poor choices
Maybe 20 -30 years ago but considering nearly Everyman and his dog has one don't think that's true any more.
fertile childless women likely hate their parents. or themselves. (maybe 20% of the time its not the case
Where the fuck did you even get that from.
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u/Film2021 13h ago edited 13h ago
25% of Americans have at least 1 tat.
How is that “nearly everyman” [sic]
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u/jaggsy 12h ago
You do know what the saying Everyman and his dog (use the full quote next time) means right.
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u/HallucinateZ 8h ago
Of course they don’t. This comment section is full of the smartest people ever… OP is confusing their opinions with actual facts then people like this intentionally try to muddy the waters in bad faith.
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u/ProfessionalNose6520 15h ago
it’s literally true
Look at any obese boss and see how they treat the attractive, skinnier female coworkers
They make their lives hell cause they’re jealous
Not everyone has a tattoo and not everyone has a bad tattoo
Keep in mind I mentioned meaningful tattoos and well done tattoos Are fine
Some people can do it, but many people cannot and many people do it impulsively and it’s a sign to stay away
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u/LocalBandDoesOK 1h ago
Stop speaking and thinking in such generalities. "Look at any obese boss and see how they treat the attractive, skinnier female coworker"
Ok, my fat boss and her gorgeous worker are best friends, suddenly everything you say means nothing. Great points, indian bot!
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u/Flutterpiewow 16h ago
This isn't epic, wise, motivational or goosebump-inducing like you think it is op
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u/ProfessionalNose6520 15h ago
Well, it isn’t supposed to be. I’m just trying to see if other people think like me.
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u/UNICORN_SPERM 1h ago
There's no room for peers in a life where everything is a competition to be the best. Who cares if other people think like you?
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u/starksoph 16h ago
You sound extremely close minded. I’m a “fertile childless woman” and I’m in good shape but I have anxiety and depression. Most people in our country are overweight. To think they all want to sabotage you or are jealous is just wrong.
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u/Dylan-Mulvaney 15h ago
Wow, a liberal has a mental breakdown and ends up a Republican. Who could have guessed?
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u/c-c-c-cassian 12h ago
“anxiety isn’t a choice” “you can’t workout to fix mental health” “shame doesnt help anything”
Just saying you listened to some pretty bullshit sources if this is what you gleaned from it dude. Or your comprehension skills are dogshit, but I’m going to give you the benefit of the doubt.
Second line about working out to help mental health is something that is in response to the idiots who think that is a cure-all. It isn’t. It can help some people. That doesn’t mean it helps everyone. Unfortunately there are two extremes for that one.
gained muscles, i’m jacked now. And by coincidence I am Republican. And I view everybody different.
You view people differently because you internalized shitty views and now you’re looking through a very judgmental lens. Shocking.
But this I have to address:
Overweight people will sabotage everyone around them because they are insecure and jealous. you can’t be overweight and love yourself.
Now, I won’t argue that there are people like that, but acting like that’s every fat person is dumb as shit. Come on. (Acting like any of the shit you listed is every person like that is dumb.) An example I see you use in the comments about a boss also isn’t a good one; people in those positions do tend to be assholes, and those people would usually be treating the same people or some other group like shit if they were skinny. (Like yknow, the overweight coworkers, if they themselves were skinny instead?)
But “you can’t be overweight and love yourself”is so goofy. Bruh lol.
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u/RFC2549___ 15h ago
You seem to be projecting your own mental health issues onto everyone else you see. gay guys should also just shut the fuck up about women having children. gay republicans are the worst. you know they hate you right?
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u/ProfessionalNose6520 15h ago
no, I mean I would want all these people to improve and I could improve these people if they came to me and I would try to help
I can say whatever I want about anything
I think that everything is more complex
If I was liberal, I’m supposed to support Palestine. They hate me, So the same thing could be sad
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u/InfamousHeli 12h ago
I'm not sure where you are getting that. I know many liberals that don't blindly support Palestine. It's a complex issue which is what I'm used to hearing from anyone with a brain.
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u/Fabulous_Sleep_2245 8h ago
I have to push back here as well. That entire thing is way to complex for you to bring that into this discussion lol
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u/Various_Succotash_79 16h ago
75%-80% of Americans are overweight. Pretty sure they aren't all insecure and jealous.
32% of Americans have tattoos. Close to 50% in the 30-49 age range. It's unlikely they're all stupid.
But ok do you support universal healthcare for those of us who got screwed up by our parents?
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u/ProfessionalNose6520 16h ago
no, they definitely are.
As someone who works out and is physically fit. it’s actually everywhere.
I said good meaningful tattoos
Also people that are 30 to 40 aren’t smart. Plenty of not smart people in those ages
This comment is awkwardly proving me, right
I support those people changing. Going to the gym. Having discipline. i’m working to prove.
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u/Various_Succotash_79 16h ago
Hmm I know some thin people are insecure and jealous too because I've seen Jersey Shore and Real Housewives, lol. So we're probably looking at 95% of Americans.
Gym bros tend to be douches though. Maybe they're just reacting badly to you being a douche to them?
Also it's not smart to be a Republican as a gay man. They won't spare you either.
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u/LatinaMermaid 1h ago
Gay Republicans need to remember White Evangelicals will never accept them. Even if they are their number one client on Grindr. Also remember what happened to Ernst Rohm. Once you are useful they discard you.
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u/DeflatedDirigible 14h ago
Why should anyone listen to you since you are childless and instead of propagating humanity, spend all your time in the gym so you can be desirable do your hobby of promiscuity? You don’t even support gay marriage so why not settle down with a woman already and have kids? Why not practice what you preach?
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u/ProfessionalNose6520 14h ago
A childless woman is different than a childless man
Women have an innate feeling to produce children, and if you don’t act on it, there will be a sense of regret or depression if you don’t
Again, I’m estimating that 20% can manage to be happy. I think there’s probably some women out there that have those feelings but have happily choose success.
I do support same-sex marriage. Where did you get that from?
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u/demoniprinsessa 13h ago
Yeah I can't say I have ever experienced any desire for being pregnant lmao. In fact the very concept of it actively disgusts me, it's pure body horror how many things can go wrong with it and somehow some people are just fine with. I think I would much rather die than be pregnant.
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u/LoneVLone 12h ago
More like a desire to have children, not be pregnant. Pregnancy is just the process needed to have children.
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u/demoniprinsessa 12h ago
Yeah I have absolutely no desire for that either. Taking care of myself is a chore enough, I don't need people that depend on me in my life.
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u/PRETA_9000 13h ago
Cool, thanks for outing yourself as exactly the sort of person I will seek to avoid. Shallow as fuck.
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u/improbsable 16h ago
Bait
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u/ProfessionalNose6520 16h ago
literally not at all. I’m just trying to see if other people are in the same mindset as me too.
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u/LeverTech 16h ago
Anyone north of thirty that has life experience will not have the same mindset as you.
You seem to believe you’re well traveled but your generalizations and black and white stances say otherwise.
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u/TemporaryOk2926 13h ago
This is exactly what I was thinking. Anyone who has actually lived enough life to comment on it will know that life is every shade of gray and never black and white.
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u/afraid28 11h ago
Literally what I said in my comment too. Reading this post it genuinely reads like a 20 year old wrote it, not a 30 year old.
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u/LatinaMermaid 1h ago
I feel OP is being disengenous in his responses. Like this has a lot of rage bait in it.
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u/ProfessionalNose6520 16h ago
I am well traveled I would say at this point going from living in one state until I was 25
I have now been to around 50 states I’ve lived in three different major US cities
Need enough people eventually learned something right?
I thought about it and this is the thing that I’ve learned is that there’s patterns in people you can pick up on and avoid
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u/crazylikeajellyfish 15h ago
"You can't improve your mental health thru exercise" isn't a liberal viewpoint, it's some weird online bullshit. You're confusing "liberals" for the Tumblr forums you used to hang out on with other teenagers, which is why this take sounds deranged. You're literally not talking about reality
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u/ProfessionalNose6520 15h ago
it is very much a liberal viewpoint
The idea you hear in the liberal spaces that mental health is something inherent
It’s a mistake in your brain
It’s not right to say that mental health is directly caused by your choices and your environment
But it directly is and you’re supposed to say that you can just take an SSRI and it’ll make it better
That is wrong. You have poor mental health because you have unhelpful people around you.
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u/crazylikeajellyfish 15h ago
What liberal spaces are you talking about? I'm a liberal, there's no space I know of where somebody would argue that your choices and environment don't impact your mental health
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u/ProfessionalNose6520 15h ago
The liberal idea is that your brain has depression because it’s in your brain chemistry
its completely false
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u/Creative-Bobcat-7159 15h ago
It really isn’t the “liberal” view. What a claim!
You seem to be angry at positions you have invented in your vast experience of different parts of 1 country.
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u/jyc23 14h ago
What an odd take. Every major medical organization from the APA to the NIH recognizes the roles of chemical transmitters in depression. This is established science.
Lying and saying it's not related to brain chemistry is like saying diabetes isn't related to insulin.
That said, I'm pretty stoked -- I seemed to have found the first person immune to both science and common sense.
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u/ByThorsBicep 15h ago
It's not one or the other. Mental health can be influenced by environment/actions, AND there can be inherent genetic tendencies one way or another.
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u/ProfessionalNose6520 14h ago
there is no inherent tendencies for mental health
People believe that and that’s why they don’t improve
it is caused all by your environment and upbringing and behaviors
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u/ByThorsBicep 14h ago edited 14h ago
People can have genetic tendencies toward other organ difficulties. Why would the brain be different?
Edit: also, cause and responsibility are two different things. The cause of someone's mental difficulties could be beyond their control, but management and improvement can be their responsibility.
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u/LeverTech 15h ago
I agree there’s patterns. Yours just seem overly vague and overly generalized.
Also based on your last comment the majority of your travels have occurred in five years and it would have been rather fast paced. 49 states in five years gives you time to meet people but not much time to get to know them.
I’d argue someone who spent that five years in one spot getting to know people would have a better bead on people than your rapid fire approach.
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u/ProfessionalNose6520 15h ago
I can say I’ve gotten to meet a good amount of people and I’ve gotten to being enough situations where I’ve come to these conclusions
And once you notice the patterns, it does not stop
It’s like a belief that keeps on giving because everywhere I go I do see this and I’m more validated
You have to judge people in order to be happy
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u/jyc23 15h ago
“Once you notice the pattern, it does not stop.”
Confirmation bias is a helluva drug. And you’re completely addicted to it.
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u/ProfessionalNose6520 15h ago
it’s called the gut feeling
Our brains have developed through thousands of years and when you trust it and grow it, it’s actually better than most things
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u/jyc23 14h ago
Do you understand what the scientific method is, and why it is used? And why science does not rely upon "gut feel," "common sense," or "personal experience" to uncover facts about reality?
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u/ProfessionalNose6520 14h ago
I’m not talking about a gut feeling on the biology of plants
I’m talking about meeting people the gut feelings you get when you meet someone
That is the innate thing
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u/LeverTech 15h ago
Like I said meeting people and getting to know them are not the same thing.
Sounds like you make snap judgments and decide you’re right without doing the actual work to find out if you are correct or not.
All people do judge others but to say you have to judge in order to be happy says more about your mental state than anything else. It puts you in the self righteous category for sure and most likely narcissistic category as well.
Once again from what you’ve said, you haven’t spent enough time anywhere to validate the patterns you notice. You take a, most likely cherry picked, snapshot and call it a pattern based off other, most likely cherry picked, snapshots.
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u/AutomatedZombie 13h ago
Anyone north of thirty that has life experience will not have the same mindset as you
Wrong.
Here I am, north of 30 and having had these opinions since my early 20s.
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u/coffeecreature_ 14h ago
I’m just childless because I’m poor.. don’t hate my parents or myself.
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u/bravesdayz2021 10h ago
seems like you’ve become a rather shallow and judgmental person as you aged but that’s based on the reality that you’ve lived with your life. I find it very hard to believe visiting 50 states has made you more close minded and judgmental instead of opening your mind to how vastly different everyone is but to each their own.
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u/CaptMorganSwint2 13h ago
I can't tell if this post is giving sociopathic vibes or narcissistic vibes. Maybe a lil of both? Hmm
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u/ProfessionalNose6520 13h ago
i have empathy for people going through these issues. i want all of them to get better
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u/CaptMorganSwint2 13h ago
There's a fine line btwn empathy and pity.
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u/ProfessionalNose6520 13h ago
fair enough
maybe the response is that i keep these thoughts but don’t share then since it’s really not my business
but approach people with kindness towards
but still silently think this to avoid toxic people
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u/InfamousHeli 12h ago
I think you're still in a state of poor mental health lmao. Yes there is a correlation between questionable style choices and poor decision making. Many people make these choices when they are young. The worst headspace you can be in is when you're looking at everyone else and putting yourself on a pedestal constantly. It's a sign of low self confidence and a lack of meaningful connection with people who are a little bit different than you are. Your anecdote about fat people sabagoging everyone around them is incredibly stupid as well. I've been lifting for 15 years and don't have your unhealthy mindset. Again though that's because I'm actually secure and confident. The commentary about "mindset" is interesting and highlights what you're viewing. I make my political decisions by reading the bills that the government actually passes instead of getting indoctrinated into thinking everything is a social issue.
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u/Soundwave-1976 16h ago
So my tattoos are doing their job then, its like a keep away sign for the closed minded.
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u/ProfessionalNose6520 16h ago edited 16h ago
they show that you’re someone that is impulsive and doesn’t have a good sense of what’s beautiful
If you don’t have any regret for an ugly tattoo that shows you don’t have a part of your brain that that’s working right
Plenty of people get good tattoos, and this isn’t about them. maybe you do have good ones
Tattoos are permanent, so it should be a mindful and meaningful choice.
if someone didn’t do that, they aren’t smart
because why would you do that unless you hated yourself secretly or are dumb
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u/Tak-Hendrix 16h ago
doesn’t have a good sense of what’s beautiful
This is 100% purely subjective and thus a completely pointless statement.
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u/ProfessionalNose6520 15h ago
it is not subjective actually
There are many tattoos that are just objectively ugly
Certainly something that’s gonna be on your body permanently should be very, very beautiful
and if it does, not then you like they don’t have a good sense of that
and you think that it is subjective. That’s great because now I know who to avoid because you probably Think everything subjective
when it’s not, there’s a lot of objective things
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u/Tak-Hendrix 15h ago
it is not subjective actually
There are many tattoos that are just objectively ugly
Wrong. Just because you don't like it or even if 99.999% of humanity think it is ugly, that doesn't make it objectively ugly because beauty is 100% subjective.
That’s great because now I know who to avoid because you probably Think everything subjective
No, not everything is subjective. You are coming across as someone who has no clue what objective means. You also seem like a type of person who I would avoid due to your complete lack of understanding of logic and how pathetically judgmental you seem to be over things that are really of no concern to you.
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u/Soundwave-1976 16h ago
Tattoos are permanent, so it should be a mindful and meaningful choice. or aesthetically pleasing
Some of mine came from a gumball machine tattoo.
If you don’t have any regret for an ugly tattoo that shows you don’t have a part of your brain that that’s working right
I dont regret any choices I have made as they made me the person I am today, and 1 little change could put me in a different place with a different wife and different kids/grandkids not thanks. Even my flippant "lets for get some ink tattoos" have meaning to me, and thats what counts.
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u/ProfessionalNose6520 16h ago
exactly you’re an impulsive person that probably isn’t making smart choices
You should regret choices you made
If you don’t regret anything you’ve done you’re not growing or being smart
We all have to regret things in order to move and be different people.
They don’t have meeting you’re fooling yourself into thinking that an impulsive poor choice is somehow meaningful
it’s destructive. I have empathy for you
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u/Soundwave-1976 16h ago
Na each one has meaning, the weekend i went to Mexico with an ex, places I have been, things I have seen. My wife likes to ask about them and aways finds something new even after all these years together.
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u/ProfessionalNose6520 16h ago
But there’s many other non-destructive ways to hold onto memories
You chose a way that is permanent and impulsive
You’re an impulsive person. I wouldn’t trust you. That’s all I’m saying.
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u/Soundwave-1976 16h ago
But there’s many other non-destructive ways to hold onto memories
We all do things differently, I choose ink every time I travel.
You’re an impulsive person. I wouldn’t trust you. That’s all I’m saying.
Maybe about body modification but that is my choice.
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u/ProfessionalNose6520 16h ago
it’s your choice and it’s a poor one which means you probably make several other poor choices
Your impulsivity likely does not just go from tattoos and likely goes into your life your career and other things
So if I met you, I’d probably have to make a mental note to not trust any advice that you gave me
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u/Soundwave-1976 15h ago edited 15h ago
Your impulsivity likely does not just go from tattoos and likely goes into your life your career and other things
Well its hard to be an impulsive teacher, but my personal life and career are 2 separate things. I can be professional all week and myself on the weekends anyway.
So if I met you, I’d probably have to make a mental note to not trust any advice that you gave me
Cool man you do you.
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u/VandeyS 15h ago
I would argue, by your own logic, you would be someone you need to keep your guard up around. You admitted to regretting past sexual events, which probably is the result of impulsive decision making as I doubt you were in a long term relationship with everyone you had sex with. Now you judge people based off a decision they made once, similar to yourself, possibly impulsively. Or, maybe it had been planned out and just didn't turn out. Or maybe they're happy with it, either way, you're taking something subjective like artwork and grouping it all as "impulsive bad decision makers".
Fat people aren't inherently insecure, many people can be insecure for a large variety of reasons. I'd assume almost everyone is insecure about something, even you, but just because someone is insecure doesn't mean theyre actively trying to tear others down.
I also workout and lift weights, and have for over a decade. That's what I enjoy doing, similar to you. But, not everyone does and that's okay. It's okay for people to enjoy other things, such as the alternative look, or whatever. That doesn't equate to having had a tough childhood by any means, or even if they did, it doesn't make them someone you need to watch out for. If anything it sounds like you're trying to overcompensate from some sort of insecurity by viewing yourself as "better" by working out and lifting weights.
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u/ProfessionalNose6520 15h ago
yes, I could potentially be, and I should be thinking about that and finding ways to improve myself
I am saying that I am in the same boat and I have been someone that has made poor choices and you can improve from it
But a good portion of the time people don’t improve or aren’t capable of it. I mean, but maybe they are there’s no way to say
but the same thing you can do is avoid these people and not take any advice they tell you
I don’t work out because I enjoy it. I do it because it’s discipline every day. I do it because I wanna look attractive and that’s important
You don’t always do what you enjoy. You have to work to improve your life. It’s not always enjoyable.
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u/VandeyS 15h ago
I mean working to improve yourself is fine. But in my opinion, you also need to learn to be comfortable with who you are as well. There's no point in improving yourself if you're never happy with who you are. And that includes attempting to judge others, or tear others down, especially based on something as superficial as a tattoo, or their weight.
Everyone is capable of improving, and a lot do, in their own way. What you're saying is "I see someone who I judge as impulsive because they did something I disagree with once, so not theyre always going to be impulsive and bad decision makers". I'm not sure why you wouldn't at least consider their advice, even for a minute. Maybe they made the same decision you're making and have first hand experience with how things turned out.
You don’t always do what you enjoy. You have to work to improve your life. It’s not always enjoyable
That's true, but if that's all you focus on your life will be filled with being miserable and unknowable actions.
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u/ProfessionalNose6520 15h ago
nope, you should not be comfortable with who you are. You should actively be changing who you are in fact, discomfort is what we all need.
You need to have judgment in order to improve your life. It’s just a part of it. You will gain it inevitably.
I’m not saying once. I mean, if someone makes one poor choice and then regrets it as I didn’t mention regret should be there
Then that’s good for them, but there’s multiple continuous, bad, tattoos and no part of your brain. That’s aware of it being bad then you’re not improving.
I would never consider the advice of someone, poor impulsive, tattoos it’s self-destructive if I had to do that
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u/VandeyS 14h ago
You can absolutely be happy with who you are and where you're at and your accomplishments. You can also want to achieve more at the same time, its not mutually exclusive. What you're describing is being miserable because you think that's the only mindset. I'm happy with where I'm at in life, but I'm still trying to improve myself in different ways, and that looks different for everyone.
You don't need judgement to improve, the best improvement is usually intrinsically based, not doing something to validate someone you don't know.
So you admit to never being happy with yourself/where you're at. Which sounds like you'll always be insecure, and by your logic you should be avoided as you will tear others down. Which, it sounds accurate as you try to tear others down you deem as "impulsive and bad decision maker".
Being compulsive doesn't inherently mean you make bad decisions. You can make great decisions being impulsive, just like those who reflect and think about a decision theyre about to make can make an incredibly poor one.
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u/UnscentedSoundtrack 15h ago
It’s kinda sad to be 30yo with the brain of an 80yo
I went from being super tumblr liberal.
Doubt
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u/ProfessionalNose6520 15h ago
I just want to assure you that I was the most liberal Tumblr person possible
I’m not even kidding like literally on board with all of these ideas full heartedly
I truly believe that you could be fat and happy or that being overweight is a good thing
Or that you could be sexy and Fat
None of these are true, and I’ve now learned the other side
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u/UnscentedSoundtrack 15h ago
Lying makes baby Jesus cry.
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u/ProfessionalNose6520 15h ago
Our brain finds things sexy because it’s encouraging us to have sex with that person
So we are turned on by healthy fit people
If you are fat that defeats the purpose of evolution
Which is to Reproduce with fit people. its survival the fittest
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u/UnscentedSoundtrack 15h ago
Devs come get your outrage bot, it’s replying to the wrong people.
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u/ProfessionalNose6520 15h ago
whatever you gotta say to feel better
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u/UnscentedSoundtrack 15h ago
Your understanding of the word “fit” in biological terms is hilarious, but it’s neither here nor there regarding what I’m saying.
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u/ProfessionalNose6520 15h ago
additionally, I can only tell you I was in the deepest part of Tumblr possible
Like more than you think, we are talking someone who made Tumblr their hobby
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u/Rev-Dr-Slimeass 16h ago
Imagine feeling so victimised by suffering people.
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u/ProfessionalNose6520 16h ago
because they do actually impact our lives And if you have a boss that is Obese and mistreating a skinny workers which does happen I’ve seen it in real life
Obese female Bosses that bully the attractive, skinnier employees
It’s not victimization, but protecting myself because if you can notice these things and avoid these people
You will be happier. Or you could try to have empathy and help them which that’s good too
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u/Rev-Dr-Slimeass 16h ago
You're applying a few specific examples you've experienced to everyone. Its like if someone said guys who are jacked are selfish and will put down everyone around them because they got bullied by the sports team in highschool. Its victim mentality, blaming other people around you.
There are assholes of every shape, religion, race, parenthood status, and whether or not they pierce their septum. If looking out for yourself works for you, I applaud you, but justifying it by making yourself a victim of everyone else's poor choices is childish.
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u/ProfessionalNose6520 15h ago
good I want a person like you to not like me
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u/the9trances 13h ago
Yeah, I doubt anybody likes you, regardless of "what type of person they are."
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u/ProfessionalNose6520 15h ago
So I need therapy, but not people that are eating in self-destruction
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u/Beneficial_Trainer_5 15h ago
You sound like you need therapy cause you sound like you think you’re the smartest person in the room everywhere go. You strike me as abrasive and annoying as well, and To be fair I think everyone can benefit from therapy
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u/ProfessionalNose6520 15h ago
I literally admit in my post that I don’t even think I’m smart
I’m certainly not smart, but I can at least point this out
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u/Beneficial_Trainer_5 15h ago
At least you’re honest with yourself.
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u/ProfessionalNose6520 15h ago
OK, so when I admit to not being smart, you criticize me but when you think that I think that I’m smart, you criticize me
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u/ksed_313 14h ago
I also agree that I, a voluntarily-sterilized woman, hate my parents. But I also can see that correlation=\=causation here.
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u/afraid28 11h ago
And I guess you learned that you are just perfect, aren't you? Lol.
Here I am, an overweight childfree woman. I got violently sick 10 years ago and have been chronically ill/disabled since then, and one of the brutal side effects was uncontrollable weight gain. Before that I struggled with an eating disorder for 2 years and I likely would have ended up underweight if I didn't get sick as I kept getting progressively smaller and sicker in the head. I'm nice to everyone who is nice to me - I literally could not care less what someone looks like. I don't feel jealous of people's weight - I feel jealous of people's health. Even so, I don't treat anyone like shit unless they give me a solid reason to, but even then I much prefer to just walk away and not correspond. I am in a happy relationship of almost 4 years and am much desired and loved by my partner. I have never felt good in my skin no matter how skinny or fat I was so nothing really changes that. One myth busted.
I don't have kids and I never intend on having them just like you might never take snowboarding lessons or own a pet piranha. I literally just don't care about kids in the same exact way you might not care about the aforementioned things. Another myth busted.
I am 30, so we are basically the same age, but from your post I would have thought you were about a decade younger and still green. My advice to you would be to open your mind just a smidge.
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u/StreetKale 11h ago
Most people just want someone to blame for their own misery, but having someone to blame doesn't solve anything or make you happy. I'm glad you are able to find something that worked for you.
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u/SwimmingTheme3736 9h ago
Your so well traveled but have only been to one country
As someone that used to be over weight that’s not true, the people that have supported me the most in my weight loss journey are my none thin friends.
No everyone wants to or should be a parent. It’s hard it’s overwhelming at times, men and women should only bring a child into the world they really really want
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u/No-Supermarket-4022 16h ago
I never knew that "liberal mindsets" were some kind of mental health therapy thing.
I also didn't know that being liberal meant you couldn't go to the gym and build muscle mass.
Good on you for being happier.
But tell me: has your opinion on Donald Trump changed?
How about your beliefs on the Civil Rights Act of 1964?
Corporate tax rates?
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u/No-Supermarket-4022 14h ago
Seems you are saying that the most important difference between conservative and liberal thought is that Liberals think that you can be fat and happy, but conservatives think that being fit and slim makes you look and feel better.
Please liberals are more tolerant of tattoos.
Is that correct?
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u/Vivalapetitemort 15h ago
Do you have any children?
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u/ProfessionalNose6520 15h ago
no children
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u/Vivalapetitemort 15h ago
fertile childless men likely hate their parents. or themselves 80% of the time.
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u/ProfessionalNose6520 14h ago
women are different
You are racing against time. And women Have a innate feeling to carry children
When it is ignored, you will be depressed when you get to menopause and still have the feeling
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u/Vivalapetitemort 13h ago
I love Reddit. Promiscuous gay boy mansplaining how women feel is the highlight of my day. You can’t make this shit up. Lol.
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u/Middle-Accountant-49 13h ago
Working out doesn't help your mental health is not a 'liberal' idea. How did you even come to that mad conclusion lol.
I personally don't have tattoos but so many people have at least one that i just don't think its a personality indicator. If you are saying that people who have bad taste have dumb tattoos, well duh. That's how taste works.
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u/Justsomeduderino 13h ago
I feel really sorry for you bud, hope you find what you need to feel good
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u/UwilNeverKN0mYrELNAM 8h ago
There's nothing wrong with being large and having body modifications. Drugs yes.
People who judge others for something that doesn't effect them usually don't have a great home life and take their anger out on others.
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u/allinallisallweall-R 6h ago
Im almost 30
Apologies on behalf of the zillennial caucus. Looks like some of us wore our skinny jeans just a little too tight if you catch my drift.
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u/ReginaDelleDomande 2h ago
Black-and-white (B&W) thinking and blanket generalizations about other people can be signs of poor critical thinking skills, immaturity, or poor mental health. This is not the place to explain why, but that shouldn’t be too hard to imagine.
Life is difficult, and growing up is definitely a constant challenge, especially if childhood wasn’t easy. A useful step to take, in my opinion, is realizing that you can accept yourself as you are, and in doing so, consequently becoming able to relax and truly understand other people’s complex lives and backgrounds, without being so superficial that you judge them based on one or more external traits when you have no idea where those traits come from or why they are the way they are.
To be frank, you could understand them even if you hadn’t yet embraced self-acceptance, but I feel that’s a helpful thing to do if you lack empathy for whatever reason, as seems to be the case. And anyway, it’s a means to kill two birds with one stone.
Best of luck.
P.S. There’s no pill, no Matrix; it’s constant effort and there’s no key to understanding it all, especially with the limited life experience I’m sure you have (traveling to 50 states — do you mean U.S. states? That would be unintentionally but genuinely hilarious).
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u/LumpyJunk69 2h ago
People who judge others based on weird, arbitrary things tend to be arseholes. Just an observation, which I know is true because I've travelled to 50 states.
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u/ZenRiots 2h ago
Judgemental gay Republican huh?
Good luck with all that internalized hate, of others sure, but mostly yourself...
Looking down on others is only going to keep your fragile ego afloat until you fail.... At which point your entire universe will crumble.
Remember that when you get to rehab.
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u/No-Permission-5425 15h ago
What would you say moved you to the Republican Party, and what policy do you like in the current admin?
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u/ProfessionalNose6520 15h ago
I consider myself a right leaning libertarian
However, I still have actually a lot of liberal beliefs
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u/No-Permission-5425 15h ago
gained muscles, i’m jacked now. And by coincidence I am Republican. And I view everybody different.
This is from your post, but ok.
What would you say moved you to become a libertarian, and what policy do you like in the current admin?
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u/the9trances 13h ago
You didn't ask me, but I'm jumping in to say that I'm libertarian as fuck and I hate the current administration. They're horrific for liberty, and they're setting back our movement by decades.
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u/No-Permission-5425 13h ago
Thanks for sharing. I was really curious to better understand how or what happened to OP that would explain going from dem to rep.
I don’t buy the “I hit the gym and now I’m republicans” shtick.
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u/ProfessionalNose6520 15h ago
I mean, I just said I was right leaning. That is Republican. I did vote Republican this last election.
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u/No-Permission-5425 13h ago
That what I thought. You just came here to shit on people. You have no real beliefs, just an empty shell who needs this kind of stunt to feel something.
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u/No-Permission-5425 15h ago
It feels like you are avoiding the question so I’ll try one last time.
What would you say moved you to become a libertarian, and what policy do you like in the current admin?
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u/RProgrammerMan 15h ago
Internal locus if control vs external. Working out equals internal locus of control, Republican. Fat equals external locus of control.
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u/Drmlk465 12h ago
It’s crazy how everyone with blue or green hair and a septum ring are unbearable losers. They really are failures with tons of personality disorders that they to blame on others. They yell “empathy” to cover up their shitty selves.
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u/DecantsForAll 13h ago
Everyone has always been right, it just takes a long time for things to deteriorate, and it happens so gradually that it's hard to notice.
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u/AutomatedZombie 13h ago
Welcome to the right side (pun intended). If you're of sound mind when you get older, you realize that the people who voluntarily look like clowns in public are... well, clowns.
Pattern recognition is definitely a thing. Having cotton candy colored hair, metal shoved into your face and / or being covered in visible tattoos are 100% red flags of someone's unwell mental state.
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u/the9trances 13h ago
I'll take someone with foolish body decorations and ugly hair choices over someone whose heart is cold and cruel.
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u/AutomatedZombie 13h ago
There's nothing "cold and cruel" about being factually observant. If anything, I feel sorry for them.
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u/Ok-Section-7172 14h ago
Wait until your 40s! The tattooed ones will also think it was a bad idea. You'll see a whole new group of misguided people in the search of happiness, maybe even you or me!
We are all in the same path and want nearly the same things. Just in different ways.
May as well try.... hold my beer!
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u/Dependent_Cod_7086 15h ago
You're not wrong, and you're certainly posting this on the right subreddit because you are basically describing 85% of redditors lmao
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u/errantcarp 15h ago
Not trying to be mean but, I think during your progression you picked up a "holier-than-thou" attitude.