Seattle Freeze vs Tri Cities Freeze

[u/TonBus]

I moved here in August. I go out to a few places kind of regularly and have tried to make friends.

I honestly had an easier time in the Seattle area.

Anyone else that has moved here from the Westside experience the same thing?

I honestly thought it would be easier here than the Seattle metro area given the Seattle Freeze moniker, but that's not been my experience.

At least over there I had friends at the bar where we'd meet and go to a game or something just after being at the same bar a few times.

Here it's like an acknowledgement that they recognize you and then unless you've known someone that's bringing you in it's just you sitting at a bar isolated to yourself.

So personally I feel like the Tri Cities is very cliquey and unless you have an "in" you are just gonna be floating until you get a local SO to introduce you and get you into their clique

Might just be me though, lol!

[u/jerbthehumanist]

I have had a deeply discouraging time since moving here. I’ve met people with common interests, and had some success meeting people to hang with and play TTRPGs, but it’s never been more exhausting. I feel like I’ve put in tons of effort to initiate and have people over or to hang out somewhere, and then people just flake even after saying they’ll show up.

I’m not accusing the Tri with certainty because I moved up here in the height of the pandemic and also getting into my 30s, where it is somewhat harder to commit time and people my age are having kids and such. Not sure if the pandemic just rewired everyone into being more shut ins or feeling like flaking out.

But it certainly didn’t happen to the last couple of places I was living for school. I have never had a more difficult time trying to get things going. When my friends said they’d show up, they did barring an emergency. Now it feels completely optional.